In Diva Love,
Pamela 👑💯❤️
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Random Rants/Musings
As most of you know, this blog is my therapy. Looking at how little I've blogged over the past year lets me know that I am possibly neglecting myself in some ways. I haven't written a lot because I can't express most of the thoughts floating in my head. This last year and a half has been seriously crazy by my own standards. I have a ton of things I want to blog/rant/discuss here but I haven't. There are always those people who want to make everything about them and I refuse give them the satisfaction or ammunition for future repercussions.
My short summer is ending in one week. UGH! Back to work I will go. Thank goodness I love my boss and my job. I have had a relaxing few weeks with several road trips and fun mixed in. Love the schedule of an educational professional.
This weekend my travels will take me to Providence Rhode Island for my daughter's Freshman College Orientation. I think she is excited about her pending future. I remain excited for her. I also harbor some reservation as I really don't think she is as mature as I was at this point in my life. Apparently, it is the way of the times as I voice my concerns to my peers in this same season of life. Our children seem to be a little less independent and a great deal more withdrawn from the process of financial aid and things of that nature. I suspect the five months will be challenging but rewarding as she discovers herself and others in a whole new setting. But I guess that really is what college is for. I'm sure there will be a blog about that in the future.
One topic that keeps trending is #BlackLivesMatter. It is very disheartening on so many levels. Black Lives do matter. America was built at the expense of that very life. Nothing pisses me off more than when someone wants to remind me that all lives matter. Yes, all lives do matter but that really is NOT the point. There are daily reminders that the life of an African American is somehow diminished in the eyes of this society. This issue can't and won't resolve itself. America has to be intentional about addressing race relations and for some reason that seems impossible. Black on black crime has to end without a doubt.More at issue is the amount of social injustices that seems to result in people of color losing their lives at the hands of Caucasian individuals who act without conscience or under the guise of power which they are abusing either out of fear or hate.
I am a person who believes in excellent communication. I thrive on it. If you can't advocate for yourself, why should anyone else. communication is important in relationships, in interviews, for customer service, for flirting, and for expressing whatever idea you wish to get across. In the past few months, I have been privy to several scenarios where communication would've yielded far better results. When you know better you do better.
As I look at my inner circle, so many people near and dear to me are struggling.I so wish i could shake a money tree and solve their problems. Where is that winning lottery ticket? Oh...that's right....you actually have to play to win.Seriously though, times are hard out here in these streets. If you have the means, pay it forward and bless some unknowing soul.
Can I just say that I love memes! They brighten my day. To the person who came up with that idea, Kudos. Yeah, I know....Random.
Just wanted you to know that I'm still here. I still need to exercise my voice. I keep several journals so I am not out here wandering and going crazy.Just channeling my energy in another source. For now.
To end on a positive note. God still sits on the throne. As we move further and further away from Him and His principals of faith and love, Things may get worse. Remember, He is still in control. He can change your mess into a message and your test into a testimony. As I've struggled through this past year and a half, God has remained constant and He has continued to show up in the midst of some crappy circumstances. That alone has kept me and blessed me.
In Diva Love,
Pam
My short summer is ending in one week. UGH! Back to work I will go. Thank goodness I love my boss and my job. I have had a relaxing few weeks with several road trips and fun mixed in. Love the schedule of an educational professional.
This weekend my travels will take me to Providence Rhode Island for my daughter's Freshman College Orientation. I think she is excited about her pending future. I remain excited for her. I also harbor some reservation as I really don't think she is as mature as I was at this point in my life. Apparently, it is the way of the times as I voice my concerns to my peers in this same season of life. Our children seem to be a little less independent and a great deal more withdrawn from the process of financial aid and things of that nature. I suspect the five months will be challenging but rewarding as she discovers herself and others in a whole new setting. But I guess that really is what college is for. I'm sure there will be a blog about that in the future.
One topic that keeps trending is #BlackLivesMatter. It is very disheartening on so many levels. Black Lives do matter. America was built at the expense of that very life. Nothing pisses me off more than when someone wants to remind me that all lives matter. Yes, all lives do matter but that really is NOT the point. There are daily reminders that the life of an African American is somehow diminished in the eyes of this society. This issue can't and won't resolve itself. America has to be intentional about addressing race relations and for some reason that seems impossible. Black on black crime has to end without a doubt.More at issue is the amount of social injustices that seems to result in people of color losing their lives at the hands of Caucasian individuals who act without conscience or under the guise of power which they are abusing either out of fear or hate.
I am a person who believes in excellent communication. I thrive on it. If you can't advocate for yourself, why should anyone else. communication is important in relationships, in interviews, for customer service, for flirting, and for expressing whatever idea you wish to get across. In the past few months, I have been privy to several scenarios where communication would've yielded far better results. When you know better you do better.
As I look at my inner circle, so many people near and dear to me are struggling.I so wish i could shake a money tree and solve their problems. Where is that winning lottery ticket? Oh...that's right....you actually have to play to win.Seriously though, times are hard out here in these streets. If you have the means, pay it forward and bless some unknowing soul.
Can I just say that I love memes! They brighten my day. To the person who came up with that idea, Kudos. Yeah, I know....Random.
Just wanted you to know that I'm still here. I still need to exercise my voice. I keep several journals so I am not out here wandering and going crazy.Just channeling my energy in another source. For now.
To end on a positive note. God still sits on the throne. As we move further and further away from Him and His principals of faith and love, Things may get worse. Remember, He is still in control. He can change your mess into a message and your test into a testimony. As I've struggled through this past year and a half, God has remained constant and He has continued to show up in the midst of some crappy circumstances. That alone has kept me and blessed me.
In Diva Love,
Pam
Monday, June 22, 2015
Double Duty Cuties
Yesterday was Father's Day. A day we celebrate the men who contribute to a child coming into the world. As I perused Facebook, it made my heart glad to see the number of fathers actively involved in the lives of their children. That's a beautiful thing. It's also the right thing. Fathers should be actively involved in their childrens' lives-physically, emotionally, and financially.As I continued to peruse social media, I also saw various postings about mothers who wanted to be celebrated in the absence of the father, and postings about how those women are not fathers. Don't we just love social media.
As a child, I was raised by a single mother who did a damn good job, I can clearly state, she was not my father, nor was she a father figure. My father wasn't absent but he was barely active. So while I knew that I was very loved by him, he failed to show me the things daughters need their fathers to show them. I am thankful that I had a grandfather who filled a lot of that void.God always gives you what you need.
The bottom line is this. Single parenting is not a new thing. Most mothers will do what they need to do for their children, especially in the absence of a father. A good mother will not bad mouth the father to their kids. They don't have to, because eventually they will see what kind of man he is and whether or not he has any character. Children don't need presents, they need his presence. I don't agree with or condone women who don't allow men to interact with their children because he isn't paying child support. What I do loathe is a father who has access and opportunity to his children and fails to take full advantage that opportunity. Those trifling men do exist. Sadly, they lose out on a chance to impact their children's lives in great ways and small.
Women are nurturers by nature and for, that reason, they will always try to fill a void. Women often have to do double duty for their children in the absence of the father and I know it is not easy. Some men put the women in that position, others make the choice unwisely. God is the Ultimate Father and refers to himself in the male gender. Women are not males thus no Father's Day celebration for you. You deserve praise for holding it down and handling your business (and his). Mother's Day is for you. Your kids will eventually recognize the sacrifices you made and the hard work it took to do everything to make their lives as normal and successful as possible. Be content with the fact that you are a double duty cutie. Just as God provides, He sees all and knows all. He specifically knows what you can handle and with prayer and probably a little help from friends, you and your children will be all right.
I end with this quote from Jan Ambu: Being a father is a choice, Staying true to fatherhood is a
duty.
In Diva Love,
Pam
As a child, I was raised by a single mother who did a damn good job, I can clearly state, she was not my father, nor was she a father figure. My father wasn't absent but he was barely active. So while I knew that I was very loved by him, he failed to show me the things daughters need their fathers to show them. I am thankful that I had a grandfather who filled a lot of that void.God always gives you what you need.
The bottom line is this. Single parenting is not a new thing. Most mothers will do what they need to do for their children, especially in the absence of a father. A good mother will not bad mouth the father to their kids. They don't have to, because eventually they will see what kind of man he is and whether or not he has any character. Children don't need presents, they need his presence. I don't agree with or condone women who don't allow men to interact with their children because he isn't paying child support. What I do loathe is a father who has access and opportunity to his children and fails to take full advantage that opportunity. Those trifling men do exist. Sadly, they lose out on a chance to impact their children's lives in great ways and small.
Women are nurturers by nature and for, that reason, they will always try to fill a void. Women often have to do double duty for their children in the absence of the father and I know it is not easy. Some men put the women in that position, others make the choice unwisely. God is the Ultimate Father and refers to himself in the male gender. Women are not males thus no Father's Day celebration for you. You deserve praise for holding it down and handling your business (and his). Mother's Day is for you. Your kids will eventually recognize the sacrifices you made and the hard work it took to do everything to make their lives as normal and successful as possible. Be content with the fact that you are a double duty cutie. Just as God provides, He sees all and knows all. He specifically knows what you can handle and with prayer and probably a little help from friends, you and your children will be all right.
I end with this quote from Jan Ambu: Being a father is a choice, Staying true to fatherhood is a
duty.
In Diva Love,
Pam
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Friday, March 23, 2012
No Justice, No Peace
I have had this blog in my head for days now. I wanted to wait because I realized that I am passionately emotional about this subject. Trayvon Martin and his unjustified homicide are all over the news and social media. It hurts my heart especially when I see his mom on the news trying to hold it together and be strong to plead for justice in the death of her son. By now, everyone knows the details so I won't digress.
Today, President Obama finally spoke on the situation and honestly, he echoed the sentiments of African Americans everywhere. "If I had a son, he'd look like Trayvon." Well I do have a son. Not a day goes by that I am not keenly aware that my baby has to be taught some lessons that Caucasians don't even have to concern themselves about. It is a painful reality of being Black in America. Racism remains alive and well in America despite Obama's presidency and occupancy in the White House.
We HAVE to teach our sons about dealing with the police. We have to teach them about the preconceived notions that many will have just because they are young and Black in America. We have to teach them that their presence on an elevator may make some person uncomfortable by their music choice and apparently their clothing choices and a host of other things that thwart their innocence way too soon. Our reality is not yours. For a change, I am not being cynical, this is real. I think the straw that broke the camel's back and made me put pen to paper was Geraldo Rivera. His simple ass actually said that Trayvon's hoodie is just as responsible for his being shot as the killer. Really, Geraldo? Do you actually believe that? Last time I checked, hoodies were meant to keep us warm. Everyone in my house loves them. Today, Miami Heat showed up for a photo up in support of Trayvon Martin and guess what? They were all wearing hoodies.
The outcry for Trayvon is important because the discussion is not to try Trayvon's killer in the media. The real issue is for justice to be done and a fair investigation take place so the family can have peace of mind and closure. We all deserve the right to walk around without some overzealous individual questioning our rights to be there. There are soo many laws which can be reviewed but this is one that definitely elicits scrutiny. By all accounts, the police in this case were negligent. They failed to question witnesses, they took the shooter's word without question, they failed to notify the family in a timely manner despite the fact that they had access to his cell phone, and the list goes on.
I want my son to be comfortable wherever in whatever environment he is placed in. I want him to be seen as a person with rights. As a parent, I will always worry about his welfare. As he grows older, I will worry more about him in terms of where he goes and how he's viewed. Hell, I worry about my husband and brother, and nephews etc. They have an undue burden to deal with because they are Black males in a society that perceives them as threatening. This mentality has been perpetuated for centuries. We can thank the vestiges of slavery for that. I don't foresee a time when that won't be an issue but I'd love to witness it in my lifetime. I am not getting my hopes up. I've seen to much and I know too much. History has not been good to our men and it definitely hasn't been fair. My prayer is that we get to see justice not only for Trayvon but for anyone who is gunned down senseless while walking home with a bag of skittle and a can of iced tea while chatting with their girlfriend. There shouldn't have to rallies and demonstrations and vigils to get a serious investigation. Every life is equally valuable. We cannot allow individuals to take the law into their own hands and then claim self defense. Trayvon belonged in the gated community and was minding his own business. On any given day, we all deserve that. Justice for Trayvon means justice for everyone. I don't think any of us should be at peace with anything less. Trayvon could be your son, he could definitely be mine.
In Justified Diva Love,
Pam
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Mommy Blahs #1
I have a headache as I type this blog. My oldest child is 14 and she is a Freshman in high school. She is a very intelligent young lady whose goal appears to be excelling in underachievement. You'd have to understand that my hubby is the consummate overachiever and I simply don't settle for mediocrity. God has challenged me with both of my children. they love life and everything about it but they aren't pressed about making a statement and leaving their marks. OMG! I was a busy in high-school and college. I was NOT an A student, in fact, I was an average student. I did however participate in any and everything. My husband was #2 in his class and he too was a busy student. My kids are content to sit back and chill. Lawd, this entitlement generation is going to give me a coronary. We are miffed because nothing in us has prepared us for handling this.
I don't want to impose my agenda on my children but I know it is my role as a parent to spur them to greatness. My daughter has the ability to be an A student. She is lazy and hates to study. She is NOT interested in participating in any activities. My issue is this, if you aren't super busy with activities, you have to be an awesome student. Hubby and I are ranting about being well rounded for college applications and you know what? It is frustrating as all get out! She doesn't get it and we can't make her. Anyhoo, God has shown me yet another area of specific prayer! Pray for me and my children! I keep telling my kids to tap into their God-given power. Them being afraid of their power limits their friends. I think they need to spur their friends to greatness. and vice versa. It is stressful when you see things in people that they fail to see in them selves. Don't get me wrong, there are adults who suffer from this but children still have more hope and potential to impact their niche.
Okay, I think I am over it now! Well not really! Thank goodness for God's grace and mercy. More importantly, for His plan. He has mapped out a future for both my children. No level of underachievement will keep them from doing that which He has for them to do. That nugget is keeping me sane right now. Thanks for allowing me to rant on what for most bloggers is Wordless Wednesdays! Love you guys!
In Kicking & Screaming Diva Love,
Pam :)
Thursday, December 8, 2011
December Diva Dialogue-2011
I have been AWOL and Lord knows things have been moving and shaking in my absence. Sometimes it kills me not to put my opinion out there. Life calls though and I can't always post like I want, when I want. That being said, I am going to riff on several things.
First up, Herman Cain. I am going to keep it short and simple! I hate arrogant people who are also ignorant. Herman Cain fits the bill. I never considered him a serious contender for the GOP nomination but let's face it, their pickings are extremely slim. That being the case, he was allowed to gain popularity despite being ill informed on a variety of subjects. I am gonna say that he is also an unattractive womanizer. Goodness, he reminds me so much of Clarence Thomas that I wanna scream. I am mad because he didn't champion his wife enough to go immediately to clear up the drama of all these women coming out of the woodwork to say that he allegedly sexually harassed them. He made the wife wait five days before he went to see her. WTF? Dead wrong!As of this posting, I guess he's had plenty of time to mend fences with her because he has finally done the appropriate thing and removed himself from the media spotlight.Now we can focus n the antics of Mitt Romney and Newt Gingrich. Happy happy joy joy!
Let me just put this out there. Is Gloria Allred the only attorney who can represent sexually harassed victims of men in the spotlight? I mean really. I hate seeing her! Maybe it's just me!
Jerry Sandusky was again arrested on yesterday as a ninth and tenth accuser have come forward to allege abuse at the hands of the former Penn State defensive coordinator. Joe Paterno has been been fired. The legacy of that University has been tarnished forever. The major question which emerges is this, actually there is no question. Joe Paterno was dead wrong for not being more proactive about Sandusky's problem. We are our brother's keeper and as a coach, Joe had a responsibility to do the right thing and pursue corrective action.
Donald Trump is back. Oh joy! Here he is talking politics again. Really, media whores are ruining the US one appearance at a time. What serious presidential candidate in their right mind would participate in a debate moderated by him? Trump has and always will have his own agenda. Any minute he will be talking about running again. Like that could happen.
Today, there has been another shooting at Virgina Tech. This really saddens me. I know you really aren't safe anywhere but my goodness, how much can one school take. I am praying that my children aren't interested in going there. Once again, the Virginia Tech community stands in need of our prayers and support. I am not sure what is going on but I know God is ultimately in control.
Black Friday was about two weeks ago. I am saddened by the stories of trampling, pepper spraying, and gunfire all to get a cherished item at a bargain price. At some point don't we have all the video games and electronics that we can use? Haven't these folks got Internet service? Order your stuff from the comfort of your home. If you must go out, use your manners people. Be on your best behavior.
I am going to close for now. I promise to return soon. In the mean time, It is the Christmas season. Christian or not, most folks get caught up in what is a spiritual holiday. Jesus is the reason for the season. Commercialism abounds but the true meaning of the season is giving. Go beyond the gifts and focus on your character. Are you giving your best? God gave us His best. Take a moment to pause and reflect on how far you come and what you have achieved. Did you make a difference? If not, it isn't too late.
In the Spirit of the Season,
Pam
Monday, October 31, 2011
Diva Digression-October, 2011
For the first year ever, I chose to give out the candy instead of caravan through the neighborhood with my children on Halloween. Normally, hubby gives out the candy. In our subdivision, Halloween is highly celebrated. I am not a fan, but have given in to the pressure and let my kids participate. Let me issue a short PSA......people please teach your children basic manners. "Please" and "Thank You" are essential to every day living. It really is a simple tenant that should have begun the moment you began to teach your children to talk. If you don't have/use manners, make it a part of your daily living. I mean seriously, rude adults create rude children. Please do this for me! I thank you in advance!
People Pimping the American public........Right now, I am highly irritated that I keep seeing the Madoff family everywhere promoting their book. You may feel wronged by Bernie but have you no compassion for the people he left in financial ruin. You lived high off the hog long enough. We don't care about your story. Right now many people are barely making it and frankly, I don't think they give a damn about your plight. I may be wrong but it is my honest opinion.
Next on the chopping block is Kim Kardashian. You have been married for 72 days and you are filing for divorce. Really? Every time I turn on my television, you are out, without your husband. How can you make a marriage work when you are never together? Oh, I am sorry, you really did it for the financial payoff, didn't you? In this paparazzi driven society, you were well compensated for your wedding photos. I bet you didn't have to shell out a dime for anything because your name alone could get you over(Whew! I am having a Star Jones flashback). So my question is this, will you be returning your gifts? I mean it is only right since you will not be setting up a house and filling it with love and memories.
Finally, I am calling out the NBA athletes. Basketball is one of my favorite sports. Every one of you make more money in a year than many will see in a lifetime. Do you really need 51% of the owners profits? If you got those funds, are you gonna do something to make a difference in the lives of others? Yes, I know some of you do lots of charitable things but you also live extravagant lifestyles. Your love of money seems to be trumping your love of the game. Do you all ever think about the fans? You entertain, you don't teach. In other words, in the grand scheme of things, we can take or leave you. Your impact on the world is not that serious.
That's it for now! The year is winding down. Tomorrow, we enter the season of Thanksgiving. Take a moment each day and list at least 3 things that you are thankful for! You are so blessed and sometimes we are all guilty of forgetting that very fact. Till next time, be a blessing!
Copyright October 31, 2011 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
People Pimping the American public........Right now, I am highly irritated that I keep seeing the Madoff family everywhere promoting their book. You may feel wronged by Bernie but have you no compassion for the people he left in financial ruin. You lived high off the hog long enough. We don't care about your story. Right now many people are barely making it and frankly, I don't think they give a damn about your plight. I may be wrong but it is my honest opinion.
Next on the chopping block is Kim Kardashian. You have been married for 72 days and you are filing for divorce. Really? Every time I turn on my television, you are out, without your husband. How can you make a marriage work when you are never together? Oh, I am sorry, you really did it for the financial payoff, didn't you? In this paparazzi driven society, you were well compensated for your wedding photos. I bet you didn't have to shell out a dime for anything because your name alone could get you over(Whew! I am having a Star Jones flashback). So my question is this, will you be returning your gifts? I mean it is only right since you will not be setting up a house and filling it with love and memories.
Finally, I am calling out the NBA athletes. Basketball is one of my favorite sports. Every one of you make more money in a year than many will see in a lifetime. Do you really need 51% of the owners profits? If you got those funds, are you gonna do something to make a difference in the lives of others? Yes, I know some of you do lots of charitable things but you also live extravagant lifestyles. Your love of money seems to be trumping your love of the game. Do you all ever think about the fans? You entertain, you don't teach. In other words, in the grand scheme of things, we can take or leave you. Your impact on the world is not that serious.
That's it for now! The year is winding down. Tomorrow, we enter the season of Thanksgiving. Take a moment each day and list at least 3 things that you are thankful for! You are so blessed and sometimes we are all guilty of forgetting that very fact. Till next time, be a blessing!
Copyright October 31, 2011 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Diva Digression
Yes, this something new. I am calling it "Diva Digression." This will be the forum I use to vent. I will try to keep these to a minimum but hey, sometimes life hands you lemons and not only do you make lemonade but you might have to pour it in a glass and throw it in some one's face. I hope you like my choice of titles.
Today's rant is on double-minded individuals. The one that has caused this angst is my boss. The reader's Digest short version is this. She is a marketer, not an administrator and therefore my place of work is always in a state of confusion and chaos. She chooses to please her vocal parents and undervalues her dedicated employees. I work at a Montessori school, which I will leave nameless, since I don't know who reads my blog. New employees are thrown into the mix with little or no training and left to learn the ropes on their own or from older employees who had to do the same thing.My boss's gift is doing the opposite of what her employees request or need.
Case and point, my co-worker changed her schedule for the summer with the expectation that she'd return to her old schedule in the Fall. Well her old schedule has been given to the boss's daughter(yes, nepotism is alive and well in America) and she is being forced to reduce her hours and work a different shift. I went in to interview for an office position and was given a position working in the classroom with children. Another employee wanted to work in the classroom and is working in the office. I was always clear that I wanted a part-time schedule between 9:30 AM and 4 PM. I worked Full-time all summer and now I am being told that my request may not be able to be accommodated. In June, I was promised and assured that I would be able to work those hours in the fall.
So what is a girl to do? I am irritated to say the least. Hence this blog. I could go on and on about how poorly things are managed at work but I will not. I need to pursue my passion. My aunt Dorothy will call me and tell me, "Girl, you know you need to write that book so you can become independently wealthy. You know you don't like that job(or them nasty kids) anyway." Well she is honest and on point. So I am requesting your prayers and encouragement, life is too short to sweat the small stuff. Pray that God will put the exact book on my heart and it will flow out of me. I know I can't write a book unless that happens. When I write a blog, it usually flows out of me with little or no editing. The exception are blogs of a sensitive nature. They too flow but I do revise them so as not to alienate anyone. If that is not His will at this time, I am okay with that. I do need Him to open a door for me though because I have gotten used to the money. Till the next time that I need to digress...Peace and blessings to each of you. Oh and tell a friend to check the blog out! Ciao!!
Copyright August 25, 2011 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Today's rant is on double-minded individuals. The one that has caused this angst is my boss. The reader's Digest short version is this. She is a marketer, not an administrator and therefore my place of work is always in a state of confusion and chaos. She chooses to please her vocal parents and undervalues her dedicated employees. I work at a Montessori school, which I will leave nameless, since I don't know who reads my blog. New employees are thrown into the mix with little or no training and left to learn the ropes on their own or from older employees who had to do the same thing.My boss's gift is doing the opposite of what her employees request or need.
Case and point, my co-worker changed her schedule for the summer with the expectation that she'd return to her old schedule in the Fall. Well her old schedule has been given to the boss's daughter(yes, nepotism is alive and well in America) and she is being forced to reduce her hours and work a different shift. I went in to interview for an office position and was given a position working in the classroom with children. Another employee wanted to work in the classroom and is working in the office. I was always clear that I wanted a part-time schedule between 9:30 AM and 4 PM. I worked Full-time all summer and now I am being told that my request may not be able to be accommodated. In June, I was promised and assured that I would be able to work those hours in the fall.
So what is a girl to do? I am irritated to say the least. Hence this blog. I could go on and on about how poorly things are managed at work but I will not. I need to pursue my passion. My aunt Dorothy will call me and tell me, "Girl, you know you need to write that book so you can become independently wealthy. You know you don't like that job(or them nasty kids) anyway." Well she is honest and on point. So I am requesting your prayers and encouragement, life is too short to sweat the small stuff. Pray that God will put the exact book on my heart and it will flow out of me. I know I can't write a book unless that happens. When I write a blog, it usually flows out of me with little or no editing. The exception are blogs of a sensitive nature. They too flow but I do revise them so as not to alienate anyone. If that is not His will at this time, I am okay with that. I do need Him to open a door for me though because I have gotten used to the money. Till the next time that I need to digress...Peace and blessings to each of you. Oh and tell a friend to check the blog out! Ciao!!
Copyright August 25, 2011 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Men Behaving.......Badly!!!!
This is gonna be a quick rant!!! Too much press has been wasted on this subject, but I just need to get this off my own chest. Men(and I use this term lightly), learn how to handle your business correctly and take responsibility for your stupid actions. I am so damn sick of you all making a mockery of your marriage, wives, church, and the public in general. I mean seriously!!!
Your political position, your pastoral position, celebrity position, nor your lack of satisfaction in your current relationship give you the right to behave improperly. Anthony Weiner was a weenie when he publicly denied that he sent the pictures and had been hacked. Really now! I said he was lying immediately and of course I was right. Who could gain from that financially? I mean that is usually the reason for hacking some one's account, isn't it. Now he keeps showing up on television talking about he isn't resigning because he is doing the work of his constituents. Wasn't that what he was supposed to be doing when he sent the pictures out? Eddie Long pastor of one of the largest megachurches in the country settles out of court. If you aren't guilty, you go and fight to clear your name. Now there is a whole group of people who are all confused about their Christianity. Why, because instead of knowing that God is the true shepherd they placed their religiosity in a mere man. Then we have Creflo Dollar(and who takes someone with that name seriously) telling disenchanted members of Eddie Long's church that they aren't welcome at his church because men fall and we should stand in the gap and support them. BULL!!!! Creflo is wrong. This could be extremely detrimental to a young/new believer, especially if they are already confused about spiritual things. Well ultimately, Dollar telling you to go elsewhere is a blessing in disguise because he probably has his own issues, I mean his wife's name is Taffi. (SMH)
Ahh then there is Arnold....He has a child with the maid. Maria Shriver, a Kennedy, wasn't enough for him. Lust and greed are true examples of pride resulting in public humiliation and a fall from grace. Oh, then there is LeBron. Yes, I know the Clevelander's have taken hatred of him to a whole nother level but I am not one of them. He had a right to go to another team, how he did it is where I believe the real issue lies. The public announcement on live television was a bit over the top. After all the hype, Miami Heat was unsuccessful in securing the NBA Championship and a ring for LeBron. Instead of LeBron being humbled and moving on he showed his ass and acted like one too. Suck it up. While I am on the subject, I am not sure about Tracy Morgan. I do feel that if you are a comedian, you can get away with saying a lot of things, call it comedic license. Is it possible to go too far? Is there a point where comedians have to be socially responsible. Just wondering?
Okay, I am pretty much done. I am simply tired of the media spending time on such reprehensible behavior. We are responsible for our own actions. When we do something wrong, we should fully expect to pay the price. No one is exempt. NO ONE! Every one if these is a perfect example of why your child's best role model should be right there in the home with them. As responsible adults, we can use each of the men discussed in this blog as a teachable moment. Every action has consequences and there is always fallout and silent victims. An important lesson also is that what is done in the dark will ALWAYS come to light. Losing is inevitable at some point. Take your loss with humility and purpose to do better next time. There is always another game. That being said, I am done with the matter. I don however reserve the right to take up the subject later if necessary. Till next time, enjoy the blessed life that you have been given. God doesn't make mistakes! Peace!
Copyright June 15, 2011 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Your political position, your pastoral position, celebrity position, nor your lack of satisfaction in your current relationship give you the right to behave improperly. Anthony Weiner was a weenie when he publicly denied that he sent the pictures and had been hacked. Really now! I said he was lying immediately and of course I was right. Who could gain from that financially? I mean that is usually the reason for hacking some one's account, isn't it. Now he keeps showing up on television talking about he isn't resigning because he is doing the work of his constituents. Wasn't that what he was supposed to be doing when he sent the pictures out? Eddie Long pastor of one of the largest megachurches in the country settles out of court. If you aren't guilty, you go and fight to clear your name. Now there is a whole group of people who are all confused about their Christianity. Why, because instead of knowing that God is the true shepherd they placed their religiosity in a mere man. Then we have Creflo Dollar(and who takes someone with that name seriously) telling disenchanted members of Eddie Long's church that they aren't welcome at his church because men fall and we should stand in the gap and support them. BULL!!!! Creflo is wrong. This could be extremely detrimental to a young/new believer, especially if they are already confused about spiritual things. Well ultimately, Dollar telling you to go elsewhere is a blessing in disguise because he probably has his own issues, I mean his wife's name is Taffi. (SMH)
Ahh then there is Arnold....He has a child with the maid. Maria Shriver, a Kennedy, wasn't enough for him. Lust and greed are true examples of pride resulting in public humiliation and a fall from grace. Oh, then there is LeBron. Yes, I know the Clevelander's have taken hatred of him to a whole nother level but I am not one of them. He had a right to go to another team, how he did it is where I believe the real issue lies. The public announcement on live television was a bit over the top. After all the hype, Miami Heat was unsuccessful in securing the NBA Championship and a ring for LeBron. Instead of LeBron being humbled and moving on he showed his ass and acted like one too. Suck it up. While I am on the subject, I am not sure about Tracy Morgan. I do feel that if you are a comedian, you can get away with saying a lot of things, call it comedic license. Is it possible to go too far? Is there a point where comedians have to be socially responsible. Just wondering?
Okay, I am pretty much done. I am simply tired of the media spending time on such reprehensible behavior. We are responsible for our own actions. When we do something wrong, we should fully expect to pay the price. No one is exempt. NO ONE! Every one if these is a perfect example of why your child's best role model should be right there in the home with them. As responsible adults, we can use each of the men discussed in this blog as a teachable moment. Every action has consequences and there is always fallout and silent victims. An important lesson also is that what is done in the dark will ALWAYS come to light. Losing is inevitable at some point. Take your loss with humility and purpose to do better next time. There is always another game. That being said, I am done with the matter. I don however reserve the right to take up the subject later if necessary. Till next time, enjoy the blessed life that you have been given. God doesn't make mistakes! Peace!
Copyright June 15, 2011 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Bullies...Whup Dat A--!!!
Dorna has a lot on her mind. The latest of which is bullying. The topic is in the news lately because of several suicides that have occurred as a result of such intolerable behavior. Sometimes parents have to take less than favorable stands on behalf of their children. Bullying is a coward's tactic. Enough of my opinion, this is Dorna's blog. Feel free to comment on Dorna's opinion.
Most of us heard the story of James Jones, the Florida father who stormed his 13 year-old cerebral palsy daughter’s bus to confront students who had been bullying her. Mr. Jones was arrested for his profanity laced outburst, for which he was released on $2000 bail and subsequently apologized. Mr. Jones’ behavior has been questioned and commented on with a resounding majority feeling he did the wrong thing for the right reason. Based on the comments I’ve read regarding the incident on CNN, !Yahoo News, and USA Today, people are very sympathetic to Mr. Jones’ reaction. Mr. Jones reacted as a father who has learned his daughter had been bullied for sometime; causing her to skip school to avoid her tormentors because she couldn’t deal with the problem. To make matters worse, the onset of the bullying began because she was defending someone else from bullying! I bet you Mr. Jones’ internal thought was “Ah hell naw!” I hazard to guess most parents would have a similar reaction.
My daughter is 17 years old in her senior year in Peachtree City, GA. Recently, she became embroiled in “girl drama” resulting in the breakdown of friendship between her and some of the “young ladies” (I use this term loosely). Lorin, realized the friendships were not true friendships and was okay with the loss. However, the “young ladies” began loud talking and taunting her on the bus and at school encouraging others to join in. It came to a head one afternoon, when they were to get off the bus and Lorin realized they were all walking toward our house to continue taunting and/or fight her. Lorin informed the bus driver that she was not getting off the bus and would get off at a different stop with another girlfriend and have me pick her up. The bus driver told her she had to get off there and could not get off at the other stop because she didn’t have a note. Lorin called me on her cell; the bus driver REFUSED to speak with me and continued to insist Lorin get off. Lorin refused and the bus driver eventually ended up turning the bus around and taking her (and everyone still on the bus) back to the school.
To say I was livid is an understatement!! I could not BELIEVE my child was being informed to head into harm’s way when she is asking for help from a supposedly responsible ADULT!! I have to say, God looked out for all involved that day, especially me!! He know if I had been at home (I had just started a new job that day), Mr. Jones’ behavior would have seemed mild in comparison to what would have occurred if I had showed up at Lorin’s bus stop!! As the kids say, it would have been on and popping!! As it is, I still want to cuss and smack the heck out of the girls, other students on the bus, and the bus driver!!
When my daughter arrived back at the school, she was able to see the principal and informed of her of what had occurred. The principal ordered Peer Mediation for the next day, but the “bullying” is still occurring. Even though I’ve met with one of the girl’s mother, the guidance counselor and spoken with two other administrators, things are still not right. Oh, and the bus driver, no action against her and I’m still waiting for a call back from the supervisor!! So, I have told my child ignore the heffas…I mean “young ladies”, however if they put their hands on her she is to “whup dat ass!!” She may not win, but let them know she’s not having it!! Now, I agree that violence doesn’t solve everything, but I think that’s the only language bullies understand!! Speaking in calm, rational tones will only incur more bullying. We know the major reasons bullies act as they do is because they are insecure about their own intelligence and place in the world. They are Satan’s minions in my estimation…they seek, kill, and destroy…another person’s self worth!!
I was not a bully growing up and was not a bullied. Bullying is as old as Cain and Abel, but I think it has moved to a more active level with the advent of some technology and the breakdown of civility in today’s society. I believe because we are no longer allowed to assist with “raising” each other’s children, the ability for bullies and children in general to get away with bad behavior has become more prevalent. Parents are not teaching good citizenship at home. Not to mention, TV and the Internet are not putting positive messages out on respectful behavior. The reality shows alone teach nothing but ignorance and disrespectfulness; to themselves and others.
As a parent, I have always taught Lorin to treat others with respect and courtesy; to have compassion for others. One of the things I have discovered as of late is that she doesn’t understand even if she isn’t the perpetrator of wrong to someone; laughing and/or saying nothing makes her just as complicit. It helps perpetuate bullying. Granted it may be funny to you, but it ceases to be funny when someone is hurt by the words and/or actions!! I have been trying to get her to see that she would not appreciate some of the things said if they were said to her!! She has to set an example by not reacting negatively and sometimes having to speak up for someone even when it’s not popular.
I totally empathize with Mr. Jones and have no issue with how he handled the situation. . I personally, feel Mr. Jones should be given an award and the tape of him “speaking” to the bullies be played to children all over the world!! The bus driver KNEW his daughter was being harassed. It’s her job to be aware of what’s going on and if she says she didn’t know, I have to say she’s lying. The school probably knew also and failed to take any action, probably because their hands are so tied with all of the legal crap they have to deal with to keep from being sued because they don’t want to infringe on upon some bad ass student’s right 30 years ago (maybe even 20) a parent having to involve themselves would have called for beatings all around. I don’t know about others, but if my mama came to the bus stop (or the school grounds), all involved would answer to her and THEN answer to their own parents. NOBODY would be sitting down for awhile!! Kudos to Mr. Jones in making sure his daughter’s tormentors were addressed!!
So how do we stop bullying? I go back to my battle cry “Elders take our village back”!! Don’t let the “rights” of children “bully” us (adults) into accepting bad and/or disrespectful behavior!! Be an example of good citizenship!! And most of all, PRAY… “correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction.” 2Timothy 4:2.
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on October 19, 2010
Most of us heard the story of James Jones, the Florida father who stormed his 13 year-old cerebral palsy daughter’s bus to confront students who had been bullying her. Mr. Jones was arrested for his profanity laced outburst, for which he was released on $2000 bail and subsequently apologized. Mr. Jones’ behavior has been questioned and commented on with a resounding majority feeling he did the wrong thing for the right reason. Based on the comments I’ve read regarding the incident on CNN, !Yahoo News, and USA Today, people are very sympathetic to Mr. Jones’ reaction. Mr. Jones reacted as a father who has learned his daughter had been bullied for sometime; causing her to skip school to avoid her tormentors because she couldn’t deal with the problem. To make matters worse, the onset of the bullying began because she was defending someone else from bullying! I bet you Mr. Jones’ internal thought was “Ah hell naw!” I hazard to guess most parents would have a similar reaction.
My daughter is 17 years old in her senior year in Peachtree City, GA. Recently, she became embroiled in “girl drama” resulting in the breakdown of friendship between her and some of the “young ladies” (I use this term loosely). Lorin, realized the friendships were not true friendships and was okay with the loss. However, the “young ladies” began loud talking and taunting her on the bus and at school encouraging others to join in. It came to a head one afternoon, when they were to get off the bus and Lorin realized they were all walking toward our house to continue taunting and/or fight her. Lorin informed the bus driver that she was not getting off the bus and would get off at a different stop with another girlfriend and have me pick her up. The bus driver told her she had to get off there and could not get off at the other stop because she didn’t have a note. Lorin called me on her cell; the bus driver REFUSED to speak with me and continued to insist Lorin get off. Lorin refused and the bus driver eventually ended up turning the bus around and taking her (and everyone still on the bus) back to the school.
To say I was livid is an understatement!! I could not BELIEVE my child was being informed to head into harm’s way when she is asking for help from a supposedly responsible ADULT!! I have to say, God looked out for all involved that day, especially me!! He know if I had been at home (I had just started a new job that day), Mr. Jones’ behavior would have seemed mild in comparison to what would have occurred if I had showed up at Lorin’s bus stop!! As the kids say, it would have been on and popping!! As it is, I still want to cuss and smack the heck out of the girls, other students on the bus, and the bus driver!!
When my daughter arrived back at the school, she was able to see the principal and informed of her of what had occurred. The principal ordered Peer Mediation for the next day, but the “bullying” is still occurring. Even though I’ve met with one of the girl’s mother, the guidance counselor and spoken with two other administrators, things are still not right. Oh, and the bus driver, no action against her and I’m still waiting for a call back from the supervisor!! So, I have told my child ignore the heffas…I mean “young ladies”, however if they put their hands on her she is to “whup dat ass!!” She may not win, but let them know she’s not having it!! Now, I agree that violence doesn’t solve everything, but I think that’s the only language bullies understand!! Speaking in calm, rational tones will only incur more bullying. We know the major reasons bullies act as they do is because they are insecure about their own intelligence and place in the world. They are Satan’s minions in my estimation…they seek, kill, and destroy…another person’s self worth!!
I was not a bully growing up and was not a bullied. Bullying is as old as Cain and Abel, but I think it has moved to a more active level with the advent of some technology and the breakdown of civility in today’s society. I believe because we are no longer allowed to assist with “raising” each other’s children, the ability for bullies and children in general to get away with bad behavior has become more prevalent. Parents are not teaching good citizenship at home. Not to mention, TV and the Internet are not putting positive messages out on respectful behavior. The reality shows alone teach nothing but ignorance and disrespectfulness; to themselves and others.
As a parent, I have always taught Lorin to treat others with respect and courtesy; to have compassion for others. One of the things I have discovered as of late is that she doesn’t understand even if she isn’t the perpetrator of wrong to someone; laughing and/or saying nothing makes her just as complicit. It helps perpetuate bullying. Granted it may be funny to you, but it ceases to be funny when someone is hurt by the words and/or actions!! I have been trying to get her to see that she would not appreciate some of the things said if they were said to her!! She has to set an example by not reacting negatively and sometimes having to speak up for someone even when it’s not popular.
I totally empathize with Mr. Jones and have no issue with how he handled the situation. . I personally, feel Mr. Jones should be given an award and the tape of him “speaking” to the bullies be played to children all over the world!! The bus driver KNEW his daughter was being harassed. It’s her job to be aware of what’s going on and if she says she didn’t know, I have to say she’s lying. The school probably knew also and failed to take any action, probably because their hands are so tied with all of the legal crap they have to deal with to keep from being sued because they don’t want to infringe on upon some bad ass student’s right 30 years ago (maybe even 20) a parent having to involve themselves would have called for beatings all around. I don’t know about others, but if my mama came to the bus stop (or the school grounds), all involved would answer to her and THEN answer to their own parents. NOBODY would be sitting down for awhile!! Kudos to Mr. Jones in making sure his daughter’s tormentors were addressed!!
So how do we stop bullying? I go back to my battle cry “Elders take our village back”!! Don’t let the “rights” of children “bully” us (adults) into accepting bad and/or disrespectful behavior!! Be an example of good citizenship!! And most of all, PRAY… “correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction.” 2Timothy 4:2.
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on October 19, 2010
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Rules
Hey! I am not on top of my blogging game this week(got plenty on my mind, just haven't typed it all out) but my girl Dorna was. She had some things on her mind. So I present you with a guest blog. Dorna, like myself, welcomes feedback. Let us know what you think!
Rules
I have had several conversations with my boyfriend about what he feels is my disdain of following rules. According to him, I don’t follow rules or totally disregard them if I don’t like them. Unfortunately, he is not the only one of that opinion about me. Recently, I asked my boss what the protocol was for a certain method of communication and his response to me was, “Oh, now you want to follow the rules!!” So, I’ve been giving some reflection as to why the perception prevails (because it’s most certainly not true!!) Here are some of the thoughts that have come to me: 1). Most rules are short sighted; rule makers don’t always consider future possibilities. 2) The rule makers aren’t always the correct (or brightest for that matter) people to make the rules. 3) A lot of the time rules are too absolute; other than the 10 commandments, I’m not sure why I would follow everything to the letter. 4) A lot of rules are just plain stupid; but that goes back to my theory there are way more stupid people in the world than smart; therefore rule makers are stupid!!
One definition of Merriam-Webster’s definition of a rule is “a prescribed guide for conduct or action”. Another one is “an accepted procedure, custom, or habit” and finally, “the exercise of authority or control”. Now I realize that rules are part of everything we do in life otherwise we would have anarchy and chaos. So, I understand the need for rules but they should really be more guidelines allowing some flexibility. The more I pondered on this “rules thing”, I also realized most people don’t think rules should not be challenged!! I think that is probably my issue more than anything. For those who know me, things have to make some sort of sense to ME and if it doesn’t questions will be raised. The answer, “that’s the rule” is just not sufficient for me!! And that’s usually because the explanation has no basis in sound thinking, not my concern or it’s just plain stupid!! I often find myself asking someone when I’m challenging a rule/guideline/process “Does that make sense to you?” (What I’m actually thinking, “Seriously who came up with this crap?”) or “I’m the first person to have issue with this? These questions generally result in the “huh” look or “Ma’am you’re the only one who’s ever had an issue with this” or “Look lady (witch), you’ll have to take this up with someone else” (translate: get out of my face!) or “No, but that’s the rule”. These answers frustrate me to no end!
So, what I’ve determined is the majority of people will do as told without question. Going back to Merriam-Webster’s definition, rules are “accepted custom” (by the majority) to”exercise control” (by the rule makers). But here’s the thing, I use my “prescribed for conduct or action” based on my experience or what makes sense to ME!! I don’t necessarily know the rules because I don’t think like the rule makers and I’m never the rule maker (except in my home). I go blithely through life being Dorna and then BAM…I run into “the rules”. Rules not made by me or had my input. Rules made for those who don’t always want to think. Rules that don’t necessarily make sense to anyone other than the rule maker!
As a result of all this reflection, I submit I’m not a rule breaker but a rule challenger !! I invite everyone to question the rules also. Don’t always go with the flow, because crap flows downhill!!
As Pam says…be a blessing!!
Copyright October7, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Rules
I have had several conversations with my boyfriend about what he feels is my disdain of following rules. According to him, I don’t follow rules or totally disregard them if I don’t like them. Unfortunately, he is not the only one of that opinion about me. Recently, I asked my boss what the protocol was for a certain method of communication and his response to me was, “Oh, now you want to follow the rules!!” So, I’ve been giving some reflection as to why the perception prevails (because it’s most certainly not true!!) Here are some of the thoughts that have come to me: 1). Most rules are short sighted; rule makers don’t always consider future possibilities. 2) The rule makers aren’t always the correct (or brightest for that matter) people to make the rules. 3) A lot of the time rules are too absolute; other than the 10 commandments, I’m not sure why I would follow everything to the letter. 4) A lot of rules are just plain stupid; but that goes back to my theory there are way more stupid people in the world than smart; therefore rule makers are stupid!!
One definition of Merriam-Webster’s definition of a rule is “a prescribed guide for conduct or action”. Another one is “an accepted procedure, custom, or habit” and finally, “the exercise of authority or control”. Now I realize that rules are part of everything we do in life otherwise we would have anarchy and chaos. So, I understand the need for rules but they should really be more guidelines allowing some flexibility. The more I pondered on this “rules thing”, I also realized most people don’t think rules should not be challenged!! I think that is probably my issue more than anything. For those who know me, things have to make some sort of sense to ME and if it doesn’t questions will be raised. The answer, “that’s the rule” is just not sufficient for me!! And that’s usually because the explanation has no basis in sound thinking, not my concern or it’s just plain stupid!! I often find myself asking someone when I’m challenging a rule/guideline/process “Does that make sense to you?” (What I’m actually thinking, “Seriously who came up with this crap?”) or “I’m the first person to have issue with this? These questions generally result in the “huh” look or “Ma’am you’re the only one who’s ever had an issue with this” or “Look lady (witch), you’ll have to take this up with someone else” (translate: get out of my face!) or “No, but that’s the rule”. These answers frustrate me to no end!
So, what I’ve determined is the majority of people will do as told without question. Going back to Merriam-Webster’s definition, rules are “accepted custom” (by the majority) to”exercise control” (by the rule makers). But here’s the thing, I use my “prescribed for conduct or action” based on my experience or what makes sense to ME!! I don’t necessarily know the rules because I don’t think like the rule makers and I’m never the rule maker (except in my home). I go blithely through life being Dorna and then BAM…I run into “the rules”. Rules not made by me or had my input. Rules made for those who don’t always want to think. Rules that don’t necessarily make sense to anyone other than the rule maker!
As a result of all this reflection, I submit I’m not a rule breaker but a rule challenger !! I invite everyone to question the rules also. Don’t always go with the flow, because crap flows downhill!!
As Pam says…be a blessing!!
Copyright October7, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Thursday, September 30, 2010
What About the Church??
Yes there is drama in the church! Lots of it! By now, we are all well aware of the scandal that has rocked Atlanta's mega church New Birth and it's Bishop Eddie Long. Initially I was going to make the blog about his inexcusable behavior. I think my space would be better utilized by me stating how things like this blight the church as a whole. It is not an African American church crisis, it is a church crisis. It is just one of many issues plaguing the church.
As parishioners, we have to be careful not to esteem our church leaders to a place reserved solely for God. Too many times, we place too much emphasis on the church leader as opposed to the church ministry. The church is not the pastor, it is the body. When the pastor stumbles, which he will, because he too, is simply a sinner saved by grace, the work of the church must continue. In Long's case, I believe he needs to sit down until his issues are worked out. He needs to be ministered to and encouraged. Souls still need to be saved, baby Christians still need to be nourished in order for growth, and other successful ministries still need to thrive.
The problem with church leaders falling from a place of grace, is it is really damaging for the testimony of church and the church body as a whole. One, we look like hypocrites. Two, there are folks struggling with their identity in Christ(as well as other areas) and some of the messages that the Bible teaches. Third, we really don't want to send baby Christians in the wrong direction.
Some of our greatest damaging behavior occurs in the church. The church is not a social club for saved folks, it is supposed to be a hospital for sinners. According to the Word, "All have sinned and fallen short"(Romans 3:23) So we are all sinners in need of God's mercy and grace. So, none of us saved for a really long time folks, have the right to judge those who took a little longer in their journey to get to know Christ. Perfect example, you are in your finest threads, dressed to the nines, church hat cocked to the side and in walks a scruffy looking brother or sister in jeans and t-shirt. How do you react? Do you welcome with open arms? or do you pull your purse closer and act as if there is no room on your row? Heck, I've been dressed real cute and had people who felt entitled to "their seat" not move. What happened to the love? Love is the true basis for the church's existence.
We know lots of folks attend to church because it is simply the right thing to do. They zip in and zip out with no regard for real ministry. Ministry means you are dealing with people and showing them love care and concern to meet a need. Some people only open their Bibles in church. There is a fundamental problem with that. One, how can you test what you are being taught if you don't know what Christ said for yourself. Two, what if your church leader has personal bias on a particular subject. Or maybe their interpretation is off. God told us to search the scriptures for ourselves. (1 John 4:1 or 2 Timothy 2:15)
Oh, I could go on and on about what does and doesn't go on in the church. The church has been relegated to a place of minimal importance in our society. Pastors are exposed for lewd and evil deeds daily. The church isn't dealing with real issues and in many cases has become tolerant and blase about serious moral issues. More and more, the church resembles the world at large. What a sad commentary!
I leave you with this thought. Ezekiel 18:24(CEV) states, "But when good people start sinning and doing disgusting things, will they live? No! All their good deeds will be forgotten, and they will be put to death because of their sins." This passage was quoted by my brother last week in response to the Eddie Long scandal. I loved it! While it certainly applies to any leader, it also applies to us as Christians. We can be doing a ton of good for God but what people remember is the bad stuff. I know the Bible tells us that "only what you do for Christ will last." Another instance of church view versus world view. People remember the bad stuff, Christ only remembers what we do for Him.
Wouldn't it be something if Christ still smote people? Nothing like an Ananias and Sapphira experience(read it for yourself in Acts 5) to straighten up the on-lookers or other members of the church. If you are a Christian do your friends know it? Can they tell by your lifestyle? Take some time to get your testimony/legacy in order. The church suffers when our walk is suspect. Lord knows we don't need that in light of priests molesting boys, gay marriage and no prayer in schools. Enough really is enough! What do you think? Is the church effective? Would Christ be pleased? Please share! Till next time, be a blessing!
Copyright September 30, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
As parishioners, we have to be careful not to esteem our church leaders to a place reserved solely for God. Too many times, we place too much emphasis on the church leader as opposed to the church ministry. The church is not the pastor, it is the body. When the pastor stumbles, which he will, because he too, is simply a sinner saved by grace, the work of the church must continue. In Long's case, I believe he needs to sit down until his issues are worked out. He needs to be ministered to and encouraged. Souls still need to be saved, baby Christians still need to be nourished in order for growth, and other successful ministries still need to thrive.
The problem with church leaders falling from a place of grace, is it is really damaging for the testimony of church and the church body as a whole. One, we look like hypocrites. Two, there are folks struggling with their identity in Christ(as well as other areas) and some of the messages that the Bible teaches. Third, we really don't want to send baby Christians in the wrong direction.
Some of our greatest damaging behavior occurs in the church. The church is not a social club for saved folks, it is supposed to be a hospital for sinners. According to the Word, "All have sinned and fallen short"(Romans 3:23) So we are all sinners in need of God's mercy and grace. So, none of us saved for a really long time folks, have the right to judge those who took a little longer in their journey to get to know Christ. Perfect example, you are in your finest threads, dressed to the nines, church hat cocked to the side and in walks a scruffy looking brother or sister in jeans and t-shirt. How do you react? Do you welcome with open arms? or do you pull your purse closer and act as if there is no room on your row? Heck, I've been dressed real cute and had people who felt entitled to "their seat" not move. What happened to the love? Love is the true basis for the church's existence.
We know lots of folks attend to church because it is simply the right thing to do. They zip in and zip out with no regard for real ministry. Ministry means you are dealing with people and showing them love care and concern to meet a need. Some people only open their Bibles in church. There is a fundamental problem with that. One, how can you test what you are being taught if you don't know what Christ said for yourself. Two, what if your church leader has personal bias on a particular subject. Or maybe their interpretation is off. God told us to search the scriptures for ourselves. (1 John 4:1 or 2 Timothy 2:15)
Oh, I could go on and on about what does and doesn't go on in the church. The church has been relegated to a place of minimal importance in our society. Pastors are exposed for lewd and evil deeds daily. The church isn't dealing with real issues and in many cases has become tolerant and blase about serious moral issues. More and more, the church resembles the world at large. What a sad commentary!
I leave you with this thought. Ezekiel 18:24(CEV) states, "But when good people start sinning and doing disgusting things, will they live? No! All their good deeds will be forgotten, and they will be put to death because of their sins." This passage was quoted by my brother last week in response to the Eddie Long scandal. I loved it! While it certainly applies to any leader, it also applies to us as Christians. We can be doing a ton of good for God but what people remember is the bad stuff. I know the Bible tells us that "only what you do for Christ will last." Another instance of church view versus world view. People remember the bad stuff, Christ only remembers what we do for Him.
Wouldn't it be something if Christ still smote people? Nothing like an Ananias and Sapphira experience(read it for yourself in Acts 5) to straighten up the on-lookers or other members of the church. If you are a Christian do your friends know it? Can they tell by your lifestyle? Take some time to get your testimony/legacy in order. The church suffers when our walk is suspect. Lord knows we don't need that in light of priests molesting boys, gay marriage and no prayer in schools. Enough really is enough! What do you think? Is the church effective? Would Christ be pleased? Please share! Till next time, be a blessing!
Copyright September 30, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Friday, September 17, 2010
Scapegoats
So what has me putting this out here? It is the fact that sometimes I listen to a story on the news and I think something is wrong with that story. It was the thought I had when I hear Bethany Storro's claim that "an African American woman with a ponytail attacked her by throwing acid in her face." I was thinking that that is something we wouldn't do. How many of you know that the African American population in Vancouver is less than five percent? That makes the story questionable. Almost three weeks later and after a significant outpouring of concern and valuable resources have been wasted, she finally admits that the claim was a hoax. First of all, she is one sick puppy. Who inflicts that kind of pain and damage to get some darn attention? Hell, prostitution would've given her attention. If you saw her interview, you know God should come down and strike her A$$. During her made up story, she claimed that she had bought sunglasses, something she never does, and by golly, it was God because she had the glasses on thus receieved less damage from the acid. Go figure! Then there is Susan Smith and Ashley Todd who also blamed African Americans for actions they inflicted. I am not giving them any more press, just using them as example to make my point.
We need to demand that it become more difficult to blame African Americans. There has to be a strong punishment for the person beause it is not okay to assault any specific group of people. We have to also wonder why it is so easy for society to believe the worst of us and that we would commit such heinous crimes. It is easy because the idea of all being created equal has not been totally realized despite how far we've come. America is really afraid to deal with the deep effects of years and years of acceptable and tolerated racist behavior and that is a disservice to future generations. For those of you who think that Barack Obama in the White House is an accomplishment and that we have arrived....It is huge step and it was a long time coming, but it in no way eradicates the indoctrinated racial attitudes which continue to plague our nation. How do you think people like Bethany Storro should be punished?How do we overcome the racial stereotypes? I don't have the answers but you know I always have an opinion. Till next time, I would love to see your comments on this subject. Have a wonderful weekend! Autumn begins in a few days.
Copyright September 17, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
I Have my eye on your Status
I have a couple of things on my mind and honestly they are totally unrelated. First up, is our children and their outlets of expression. What has me on this topic is that one of my young cousins used Facebook as an avenue to blast her mother. It totally pissed me off because #1 it was ignorant and #2 it was completely disrespectful. Last week, there was a segment on the Today Show about parents "friending" their children and it highlighted a father-son relationship that had fallen apart over comments expressed and photos posted on FB. The son ended up deleting his dad as his friend. I informed my cousin that her child had completely dissed her on FB and that it was offensive to me as an adult as well as inappropriate. My cousin addressed her daughter and she came back with a rant addressed to me about how she thought this was an avenue she could vent and express herself and that now she would have to keep her feelings all bottled up and become depressed and yada, yada, yada. Honestly, if I lived in the same city, I'd probably would've tried to beat her young smarta$$. Don't even get me started on the fact that her mom said to me that she and the wayward child's father weren't allowed to be her(the child) friend on FB. WTF? Really now? She is a kid, on a laptop that her mom bought and paid for, being used in a house supplied by electricity and Internet connections that said mom pays for. Am I the crazy one here?
These children really don't realize how much these social networks can impact and affect their lives. Recruiters and potential employers scout these sites and use the information collected to make hiring decisions. I won't even discuss the potential pedophiles, bullies, and other sickos who use this information to target potential victims. At what point did expression of self become so important? At what cost? I am a parent attempting to instill character and morals to my children. They follow my rules as long as they live in my house. They don't have to like them, heck I don't like all the rules that I follow(I love driving fast). You only get one reputation and I am of the mindset that you should protect it at all cost. Never post anything that might come back to bite you in the butt. Save the cursing period, it is not cute and who the heck wants to read that crap anyway? What you put out there is a reflection of who you really are or the person you want people to perceive you to be.
So for those of you with children out there....are your children on FB? Are you their "friend?" How much monitoring of their page do you do? I have teens(usually children of friends) who are my "friends" on my page. I call them out if I see anything inappropriate, not because I'm the FB police, but because I am aware of the long term ramifications it can have. If I think they need to be encouraged, I do that too. I'd want the same for my child. It still takes a village to raise a child despite the fact that it seems less and less so each day. Occasionally, there is even the well meaning adult who gives questionable advice. That always pains me. How would you have handled the situation? Was I wrong? What do you think of all of this?
You know I said that I had a couple of things on my mind but I'm going to address my other issue in a separate post. I am too tired to blog it out. I love you all. I hope this week is treating you well. Peace!
Copyright April 21, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
These children really don't realize how much these social networks can impact and affect their lives. Recruiters and potential employers scout these sites and use the information collected to make hiring decisions. I won't even discuss the potential pedophiles, bullies, and other sickos who use this information to target potential victims. At what point did expression of self become so important? At what cost? I am a parent attempting to instill character and morals to my children. They follow my rules as long as they live in my house. They don't have to like them, heck I don't like all the rules that I follow(I love driving fast). You only get one reputation and I am of the mindset that you should protect it at all cost. Never post anything that might come back to bite you in the butt. Save the cursing period, it is not cute and who the heck wants to read that crap anyway? What you put out there is a reflection of who you really are or the person you want people to perceive you to be.
So for those of you with children out there....are your children on FB? Are you their "friend?" How much monitoring of their page do you do? I have teens(usually children of friends) who are my "friends" on my page. I call them out if I see anything inappropriate, not because I'm the FB police, but because I am aware of the long term ramifications it can have. If I think they need to be encouraged, I do that too. I'd want the same for my child. It still takes a village to raise a child despite the fact that it seems less and less so each day. Occasionally, there is even the well meaning adult who gives questionable advice. That always pains me. How would you have handled the situation? Was I wrong? What do you think of all of this?
You know I said that I had a couple of things on my mind but I'm going to address my other issue in a separate post. I am too tired to blog it out. I love you all. I hope this week is treating you well. Peace!
Copyright April 21, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Mommy Rant
Okay, I just wanna say that my children haven't been to school since February 4th. My hubby has been home too. I have really enjoyed having every one of them at home but it is time to get back to some level of normalcy. I am sick of Wii, Facebook, and movies. We have consumed ginormous amounts of food and increased landfills beyond measure. I am happy to report that the tension and fighting have been kept to a minimum. My daughter is moping around because we confiscated her Ipod, cell phone, and computer, so she is missing out on her social life. Her fault, she is grounded. My son would be happy to never return to school because there are way too many video games to play and more than enough programming on the Military channel. All three of them are more than happy to come up with random menu items for ME to prepare on a whim. I have read a few books, done a lot of baking, despite the fact that I am trying to lose weight and eat healthy. I have maintained my exercise routine. We've stayed up really late, gotten up really late, and lazed around in our pajamas. We have had some comical and serious family conversations. We have even had a photo shoot to assist my husband with his photography homework. We are running out of creative things to do.
So why the rant? Well because it is my blog and I write what I want! No, seriously. All this togetherness is fun but we've gotten to the point where we no longer appreciate each other retreating to their own space to maintain their mental sanity. I miss my friends and my routine. My house is not as clean as I want it to be. I haven't had an uninterrupted telephone conversation in so long that I've forgotten what that is like. Ross, TJMaxx, and Home Goods are all calling my name. They miss me, and I them.
As I type this, I have just been informed that schools are once again closed. Oh, I forgot to mention the the County School Board sent out an e-mail telling parents to get together to clear walk ways and bus stops for the children to be safe. Excuse me! Are you freaking serious? REALLY? Umm, last time I checked that was the reason folks pay taxes. I mean really! We have only seen one snow plow, but there were two major storms. I can only hope the trucks were so busy getting the school lots together, but alas that is not the case or they would be going to get ome education in the morning. This crap is ridiculous! Who knows when I will get mail. The snow is so high by my mailbox that if I am not outside to get the mail from the mail person, I can probably forget it till Spring. Okay, I am done. Just needed to vent and get a couple of things off my chest. I love you all for taking the time to hear me out. My love affair with Winter is officially over. Pray for a meltdown of the snow that is, not for me to have one! Peace!
Copyright February 16, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
So why the rant? Well because it is my blog and I write what I want! No, seriously. All this togetherness is fun but we've gotten to the point where we no longer appreciate each other retreating to their own space to maintain their mental sanity. I miss my friends and my routine. My house is not as clean as I want it to be. I haven't had an uninterrupted telephone conversation in so long that I've forgotten what that is like. Ross, TJMaxx, and Home Goods are all calling my name. They miss me, and I them.
As I type this, I have just been informed that schools are once again closed. Oh, I forgot to mention the the County School Board sent out an e-mail telling parents to get together to clear walk ways and bus stops for the children to be safe. Excuse me! Are you freaking serious? REALLY? Umm, last time I checked that was the reason folks pay taxes. I mean really! We have only seen one snow plow, but there were two major storms. I can only hope the trucks were so busy getting the school lots together, but alas that is not the case or they would be going to get ome education in the morning. This crap is ridiculous! Who knows when I will get mail. The snow is so high by my mailbox that if I am not outside to get the mail from the mail person, I can probably forget it till Spring. Okay, I am done. Just needed to vent and get a couple of things off my chest. I love you all for taking the time to hear me out. My love affair with Winter is officially over. Pray for a meltdown of the snow that is, not for me to have one! Peace!
Copyright February 16, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Saturday, February 6, 2010
Snowgasm, 2010
Can you believe it!?! Another major snow storm in the DMV(DC, MD, VA area). It is the 4th largest snowfall ever. People, I have lived in this area off and on since 1992. It still amazes me that the area is surprised when God blankets us with mounds and mounds of snow. I realize that we certainly should not expect the ginormous amounts of snow seen in Cleveland or Buffalo but dammit, it does snow here and frankly we should be used to it.
The Dept. of Public Works is always caught off guard and the proper budget allocation never occurs. Sometimes, we even run out of salt and the other necessary items to treat the roads. Dare I even discuss the grocery store situation? Are you really that short on milk, eggs, bread, orange juice, and toilet paper? How long do you think it will be before you can actually leave the safety of your warm home? It is just not that serious! Unless of course you have no electricity or trees are falling down around you.
I believe in safety and precaution. I will never knowingly jeopardize the welfare of anyone. I really think there needs to be a class for driving in the snow. It is something that you can only learn from experience. When we have major snow, I stay home and enjoy my family as much as possible. We play games, watch movies, and bake and eat a lot. I stay home, not because I am not able to drive in the snow but because I can't drive for everyone else. If the children were given a snow day, they stay home. They don't get to sleep over a friends or go to the movies because heck if it was too dangerous to go to school then it is still too dangerous to be out cavorting with their friends. Snow days and blizzards are a great opportunity to really exhale and do some things you haven't done. It is also a good time to bond with your family. No obligations or commitments are weighing on you.
The picture, accompanying this post, is of my street. Not a plow had come through. That was around 3PM today and it had been snowing for over 24 hours. As of this moment, a plow has gone down the middle of my street, one time. Like myself, my neighbors are wondering where the heck we put all this snow. I could hardly walk, the snow was almost up to my crotch. My kids are already wondering if they will again enjoy the warmth and comfort of home on Monday. Note though that they want to attend the Annual Super Bowl Party at a friends house tomorrow! They are a trip! Go figure. Well maybe not, I am watching the news as I type this post and two school systems have close for Monday and Tuesday.
So I have had my say. Tomorrow I will again help my husband by shoveling. I will continue to bake cookies and cakes at my family's request. I will read, read, and read some more. I will play Wii like crazy. Cabin Fever takes a while to settle on my family. We love being in our pajamas. We enjoy each other's company and we have enough space that we can retreat to our own areas when we've had enough of each other. We go out and take pictures(or we keep gong to the window) as we marvel at God's handiwork. The peace and brightness of fresh fallen snow can only bring you to the thought that He is the Master Creator. No matter whether you love the snow or not, it is always beautiful as it sits on the trees and branches. So as you get quiet before that picturesque scene, you have to give God praise. Oh, by the way, they are predicting additional snow on Tuesday.
Copyright February 6, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Saturday, November 21, 2009
Attention!!......Your 15 Minutes of Fame Are Over
There is so much going on in the world that is serious and newsworthy. Yet, the media has a fascination with people and things who do not deserve unlimited attention and time of day. Frankly, I am sick of media whores whose lives are constantly invading my home uninvited. This is my current list of people who need to sit down and shut the hell up. Go away and live your life! Make us all happy....fade into oblivion! My list is random and not necessarily in order of how much you've gotten on my damn nerves. Loyal fans of mine, feel free to shout out those people who are intruding on you day to day lives without invitation. I am curious to see who is irking you.
1. Jon & Kate Gosselin-we are over you and your adorable children. Yes, they will need therapy but just think, they will have had such wonderful experiences gleaned from you prostituting them on TLC for years. It is now time for you to handle your business privately and figure out how to be the best parents possible for your 8 children without the help of loving fans everywhere lavishing them with gifts.
2. Sarah Palin-yea you, with your rogue self. Get yourself some real intelligence and go take care of your family. Read a magazine or two, legitimate ones, and stop playing the blame game. Your rhetoric is fueling ignorance and reflecting badly on the Republican party.
3. Levi Johnston-so you knocked up Sarah's daughter and now you are capitalizing on it by trying to taint her reputation(she's doing a fine job of that herself). You are playing a game that has been played for years and you really aren't that good at it. Your Playgirl photo shoot should shoot you right into oblivion because you are lacking in substance just like your baby's grandma.
4. Kanye West-capitalizing on being an @$$ is so not cute. You should indulge in a therapist's couch and work out your issues because your childish antics overshadow the popularity of your music.
5. Michael Jackson's entourage-you should all be ashamed to come out publicly....if you are his kid's sperm donor, who the heck cares. You are entitled to nothing because he's dead. Maybe in your haste to oblige his whacked out request you should've thought through all possible scenarios. Each of us is one day closer to death. I could go on but you all get the picture...
6. Former VP Dick Cheney-why you've decided to start talking now after an 8 year career of relative silence is beyond me. You too fan the flames of negative rhetoric that reflects poorly on the Republican Party.
7. Carrie Prejean-oops we found out that you really were a calculating air headed beauty queen. How are you going to promote a book and then get pissed off when people question the things you've written. Hello! Book tour! It's nobody's fault that you chose to be sanctimonious and then not one, but 8 sex videos surfaced. Like you, everyone wants their minute of fame.
8. Anne Coulter-the queen of controversy. Some of the aforementioned folks should take notes from her. She is a piece of work.
9. Unethical and/or scandoulus politicians-represent your constituents not your own personal agenda. Excuses are tools of the incompetent.
10. Conservative people who disrespect everything about the President's policies and agenda. Stop trying to hide your racism under the guise of a political agenda.
11. The Real Housewives of Atlanta-a poor representation of the ATL's African American elite. Someone tell me why it is the only one to have a token. Kim sure ain't African American(she's not married either) and there sure as hell are NOT any minorities on the other shows.
That's it for now but I am sure we can re-visit this topic at any time. Have a great weekend!
Copyright November 21, 2009 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
1. Jon & Kate Gosselin-we are over you and your adorable children. Yes, they will need therapy but just think, they will have had such wonderful experiences gleaned from you prostituting them on TLC for years. It is now time for you to handle your business privately and figure out how to be the best parents possible for your 8 children without the help of loving fans everywhere lavishing them with gifts.
2. Sarah Palin-yea you, with your rogue self. Get yourself some real intelligence and go take care of your family. Read a magazine or two, legitimate ones, and stop playing the blame game. Your rhetoric is fueling ignorance and reflecting badly on the Republican party.
3. Levi Johnston-so you knocked up Sarah's daughter and now you are capitalizing on it by trying to taint her reputation(she's doing a fine job of that herself). You are playing a game that has been played for years and you really aren't that good at it. Your Playgirl photo shoot should shoot you right into oblivion because you are lacking in substance just like your baby's grandma.
4. Kanye West-capitalizing on being an @$$ is so not cute. You should indulge in a therapist's couch and work out your issues because your childish antics overshadow the popularity of your music.
5. Michael Jackson's entourage-you should all be ashamed to come out publicly....if you are his kid's sperm donor, who the heck cares. You are entitled to nothing because he's dead. Maybe in your haste to oblige his whacked out request you should've thought through all possible scenarios. Each of us is one day closer to death. I could go on but you all get the picture...
6. Former VP Dick Cheney-why you've decided to start talking now after an 8 year career of relative silence is beyond me. You too fan the flames of negative rhetoric that reflects poorly on the Republican Party.
7. Carrie Prejean-oops we found out that you really were a calculating air headed beauty queen. How are you going to promote a book and then get pissed off when people question the things you've written. Hello! Book tour! It's nobody's fault that you chose to be sanctimonious and then not one, but 8 sex videos surfaced. Like you, everyone wants their minute of fame.
8. Anne Coulter-the queen of controversy. Some of the aforementioned folks should take notes from her. She is a piece of work.
9. Unethical and/or scandoulus politicians-represent your constituents not your own personal agenda. Excuses are tools of the incompetent.
10. Conservative people who disrespect everything about the President's policies and agenda. Stop trying to hide your racism under the guise of a political agenda.
11. The Real Housewives of Atlanta-a poor representation of the ATL's African American elite. Someone tell me why it is the only one to have a token. Kim sure ain't African American(she's not married either) and there sure as hell are NOT any minorities on the other shows.
That's it for now but I am sure we can re-visit this topic at any time. Have a great weekend!
Copyright November 21, 2009 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
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