Tuesday, October 24, 2017

What are Your Intentions?

This has been bothering me for a couple of days now....Watching the story play out about La David Johnson, a soldier slain in the line of duty on a mission that seems fraught with questions, got me thinking about why are we quick to believe that a person's intentions are less than honorable and when it would be better to take a humble step back and right the situation. 

None of us is being told the whole truth about how Sgt. Johnson ended up dead but we know that he is dead and will not be coming back to his family. We all saw his grieving widow and we know that her pain will last way into the future. We know it will be a long time before we know what was really going on in Niger and how this US soldier ended up where he was in the position he was in. 

What we do know is there is controversy surrounding a call from 45 to this widow. A congresswoman has accused the POTUS of making an insensitive remark to the widow. The widow pretty much has indicated that the POTUS said something insensitive. Here's what I think...I believe the POTUS did make the remark. I do not believe he meant it maliciously even though it was definitely not a humane remark to make. I believe the Congresswoman could've shared her concerns privately to someone and the POTUS could've made a decision to fix the situation privately. Sounds simple, doesn't it? 

Instead both have taken to airing their issues publicly and a grieving family is left hurting in the midst of the drama. It's absolutely sickening to see adults acting this way, especially ones who are running our illustrious country. At what point are people in power going to take the high road? Everything is not meant to be a political battle. We can see that 45 is NEVER going to take real responsibility for his actions nor will he ever humble himself and admit that he may have made a mistake. He could've offered up an apology to the widow and moved on but nope, he took to Twitter and belittled yet another grown woman. The Congresswoman could've have pointed out her concern and let it go. Neither choose to handle it it maturely. 

How are we going to recover from errors and misjudgments such as this? I hesitate to think of all the negative messages that are being sent to our youth. No wonder they don't have any idea about how to navigate conflict and small dramas in their lives. The people in position of power keep sending terrible messages. We are going down a horrible road when we can't address simple misunderstandings civilly and without making a public spectacle  and bringing attention to ourselves. We have to do better. People are watching and taking their cues from us. I suggest parents use this very situation as a teaching tool. We all say things we don't mean and we can often recover from them. We need to be people who CHOOSE to see the best in others--even if we don't think they deserve it. People are important and so are relationships. So I implore you to be a lil different...choose humility, air your grievances privately. The Bible says in Matthew 18, v:15-16 (NASB) "if your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed." 

In Diva Love, 

Pamela
Late mss add against yogo and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. 16But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two orthree witnesses every fact may be confirmed.

Friday, October 20, 2017

What Makes Me Feel Better, Always

Hey, Hey, Hey! Got a minute and thought I should put something out there. We all have good days and bad and let's face it, there are those things that just always can turn your day around. For me there are several very important cures. First, prayer. Nothing like a heartfelt conversation with the Lord. No judgment and He is always there-whether you think so or not. Sometime I have to remember to be still and silent so I can receive whatever it is is He has to say to me. It can't be a one way communication. 

Music. I don't go a day without it. It is always going on my computer at work. I have uplifting play lists and ratchet ones too. No day begins without gospel music. It gets my mind and spirit right. I am not a huge fan of hip-hop but give me some old school and I can jam my day away. Jazz for relaxation, R&B anytime. I've even been known to play Broadway Hits. Don't sleep on the Hamilton tunes. 

A great Conversation. Nothing like catching up with a heart and soul level friend. You know the ones who know you well...even when you aren't saying what you're really feeling? Those are the best. Also when you and a group of girlfriends come together and the conversation flows in such a way that you know you could solve all the world problems if they just gave you all the power for a couple of weeks. Had one of those moments a couple of weeks ago. There were good side conversations taking place too. No explanation, no reservation, no hiding or adapting just real heartfelt discussion without apology or agenda. Refreshing as a brisk morning wind. 

My mom. Love her to pieces. I talk to her almost every day on my way home from work and whenever the need arises. My brother does too. I know she loves me unconditionally and worries about both of us being so far away from her. It works both ways. I can discuss most anything with her and she is terribly amused by the rants of both my brother and I with ridiculous traffic antics and drivers in our respective cities.  Sometimes, I do have to remind her to let me get a word in because she truly has the gift of gab. I get that from my momma too but I am a thoughtful listener. She's getting better. Just the sound of her voice usually makes me feel good inside. 

In no particular order, these things always get me smiling too: my children and their conversations or crazy jokes. They are hilarious, yet interesting individuals. Even better, when they cozy up to me for no reason despite being 19 and 16. The best moments of my life. I love to hear little children laugh with reckless abandon. I love getting a card in the mail....If the words and message are right for me, my tank is immediately filled. A good book. Coloring-such a childlike innocence to picking the right colors and getting the picture just the way you want it. Doing a kindness for someone else. Writing or journaling. Travel would work too but sometimes funds are scarce. 

So no matter what, there's always a positive in the negative. What does it for you? What can change your day no matter what? If you can't figure it out, take a moment and get quiet, meditate on the things that bring you joy. Ask God to show you how to find that fleeting joy in the midst of pain. Trust God and trust the process. You can always start with a gratitude list. There is ALWAYS something to be thankful for. Find your joy and peace and hold fast to it! 

In Diva Love, 

Pam

Monday, October 9, 2017

HelloFresh: A Review

Apparently food delivery is currently all the rage. Never one to miss an opportunity, I quickly jumped on utilizing the code sent to me by my BFF to try HelloFresh for free. Getting started was easy, quick, and painless. You are free to choose how often you get the service delivered. I think I'm going to try once each month. Delivery occurs on the day of the week of your choice. Three menu items will be selected so if you forget, you will be receiving those items in your box. There is a window of time to select the items that will come in your box. You get about 10-12 options and one of them will cost additional money-a higher value protein usually like duck or prime rib, averaging about $5 more /person. You also get to choose to utilize the vegan, classic or family plan. With the classic choice you choose if it will be for 2 or 4 people. I chose the classic plan for 2 people.

The box arrived on a Monday. It was organized and there were two huge ice packs to keep everything cold. Our box contained ingredients for Beef noodle bowls, Pork and apple burgers, and shrimp tagliatelle. I figured this gave us a wonderful variety of items to try and would breath a little inspiration into my meal planning routine. I like that there was a separate bag for each day's meal. The recipe cards were colorful and laid out well. The only items that weren't included in the bags were staple items that you'd have in your house already, like olive oil, salt, and pepper. My extremely picky son was intrigued by the whole idea and seemed most excited to try the pork burger dish.  The items can be refrigerated for up to 7 days or should be frozen. Everything sent had great coloring and appeared to be quite fresh. There was also an update included to ensure the best quality and taste for one of the recipes. The update was based on feedback from previous customers. 

As of last night, we tried every meal in our box. We loved all three of them. My only complaint is that for the shrimp tagliatelle recipe, there was no salad or bread to accompany the dish. The pork burger had sweet potato fries and a salad, and the beef noodle bowl contained veggies in addition to the pasta and beef. All of the items were fresh and plentiful. Nutrition information is also included. In some instance, HelloFresh does send more than the recipe calls for. None of the meals were labor intensive and all were able to be prepared within 20-50 minutes with minimal pots/dishes used. 

Would I do it again? Absolutely. Once you make the recipe, you see that you could go to the local grocery store and prepare the meals but then you have to do the shopping. Trust me, there will be that one item that you'd never remember to buy, nor would you have it on hand. For about $60/week, HelloFresh can do all the work for you. It would work for me as I average about 3 meals a week that I prepare and there are no leftovers-which my family isn't very fond of anyway. If you need inspiration, it's a good way to go. As I perused the various week's choices, I saw a good mixture of poultry, pork, and beef dishes to select from. There were Thai, Mexican, and Mediterranean inspired selections as well. So the choices are excellent and should satisfy the basic eater and the foodie too. Check out the pictures that I've included. If you are interested, please feel free to use the code to try the service at a discounted price: https://share.hellofresh.com/x/kj3j.  I doubt you'll be disappointed. Happy eating!








In Diva Love,

Pamela


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