This is the last day of 2010! Can you believe it? As I watched the "Year in Review" segments on many television shows, I was blown away by how much actually happens in a 365 day period. Some things triumphant and some things tragic and a little of everything in between. Personally, each of us has faced highs and lows, created memories, and reached milestones. Isn't it amazing that God already knew the outcome of every situation and all of the small (and large) details? No matter how surprised we were by anything that occurred this year, God was not.
I am happy to see the year come to a close. I admit that I have been blessed in big ways and small. However, when I reflect on the year, I struggled a lot. I struggled as a wife and a mother. I struggled with attitudes and finances. I struggled with my inability to change some situations that God was probably using to build my character. I could go on and on but I refuse to complain. I know any and all of you can relate. There is good and bad in all of our lives and sometimes it is easier to bear than others. For me, I am embracing the promise of a New Year. I am not really making resolutions. I always have a challenge going on in my head and I always purpose to live it out. If you read my blogs enough, you can probably figure out my goals for the year.
A New Year brings hope and promise. It brings a fresh perspective. It creates another opportunity to grow and change, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. Resolutions or none, we all have something we want to see manifested in the promise of what "NEW" brings. We are not satisfied with the monotony of life; there is a change to be made somewhere be it in our relationships with God or others, or in our career or in our dysfunctional family. Change is always sought. Sometimes the changes are disappointing and sometimes they are more than we expected. Funny thing about change is this, we never stop expecting it no matter what it brings.
So as we send 2010 packing and welcome 2011, I hope you can reflect on the past and embrace the future. I hope that you can leave the baggage of 2010 behind and begin 2011 afresh and anew. You can choose your purpose and attitude for the year to come. It takes dedication and determination. It also takes the ability to try again if you happen to fail. Baby steps folks, baby steps.
My friend, Tracie, has challenged her friends to find a word for 2011 and let it be the focus for the year. I think my word is going to be contentment. It is a good choice but will probably be more difficult to live out than I think. We live in a world where we always think we need more and deserve more. I Timothy 6-8(NIV) states, " But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that." Having read that verse, I note that in order to be content, I also need godliness. So I guess my work is cut out for me. I am thinking that if I work on the godly part, the contentment will come a little easier. I will keep you posted on my journey! Prayerfully, when I get to the year end reflection on 2011, I will have been successful in both arenas.
What about you? Where are you as we close out this year? Have you made up your mind about how you want to begin the New Year? It really is a good time to take stock of the past(hurts, pains, trials, and tribulations) and renew your vision for the future. I wish you the best of the best for the year to come. I hope you reach your goals. I hope you change for the better, I hope you learn to trust God more. I hope you choose to see the good in those around you! Finally, I hope that you purpose in your heart to bless someone else this year with your time, talent, or resources. That sense of charity will instill in you a feeling of hope and give you a new perspective. Be safe everyone! Thanks for allowing me into your lives. Till next year! Enjoy the rest of 2010 and let's make 2011 the best one yet! Happy New Year to you and yours!
Copyright December 31, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Friday, December 31, 2010
Saturday, December 25, 2010
Merry Christmas!
Merry Christmas to each of you, my devoted readers. Christmas is almost over. All the gifts have been purchased and most of them opened. Our tummies are full and our children are very happy and extremely blessed by their gifts. We have been bombarded by more sale advertisements than our brains could handle and I am sure many of us braved the stores trying to catch a sale or score a bargain. We are all acutely aware that a New Year is coming along with a mailbox full of bills too. Now we are contemplating and pondering how the New Year will be different and all the changes that we are gonna make.
I hope as this day has come to a close we each have taken the time to reflect on the true gift of this season. I hope we have done this many times over the past month despite getting caught up in the rat race of holiday madness. God's gift of His Son, Jesus is the reason we celebrate. The best gifts are not those we place under the tree but those we give of ourselves. Our time, our service, or talents. Let each of aim to remember that as we make our resolutions for 2011. I continue to remind you that on our worst day, we really are extremely blessed. That said, we all have something to give. Sometimes it is a simple smile to a stranger on the street. Others, it may be the clothes we have sitting in our closet that we will not be wearing. It can be holding an infant in the hospital or reading to a class. The list goes on and on but trust me there are needs all around you, you only need to look in your own backyard.
None of us know what it cost to willingly sacrifice our child for the world, and we never will. We will suffer loss, we will face defeat, and some times we may even lose heart, but God has given us His Son to carry us through all of those things and then some. I hope you know how special that gift really is for each of us. Every individual has an opportunity to have a relationship with Christ and all of our relationships will look different. It is called a personal relationship, you know? I trust that whatever your relationship with Him is, it will grow in the year to come.
Luke 2:10-11 states, "But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord." That is the gift we as Christians celebrate(and a whole lot of non-Christians, too). Let your gifts shine forth all year not just in December. That would be the best gift we could give to the Greatest Gift of All! I certainly hope you found your Christmas merry and your holidays happy! I also hope you took time to really reflect on the true meaning of the season...Without Christ, there would be no Christmas. I hope you took time out of your busy celebrations to wish Jesus a very Happy Birthday!
Copyright December 25, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
I hope as this day has come to a close we each have taken the time to reflect on the true gift of this season. I hope we have done this many times over the past month despite getting caught up in the rat race of holiday madness. God's gift of His Son, Jesus is the reason we celebrate. The best gifts are not those we place under the tree but those we give of ourselves. Our time, our service, or talents. Let each of aim to remember that as we make our resolutions for 2011. I continue to remind you that on our worst day, we really are extremely blessed. That said, we all have something to give. Sometimes it is a simple smile to a stranger on the street. Others, it may be the clothes we have sitting in our closet that we will not be wearing. It can be holding an infant in the hospital or reading to a class. The list goes on and on but trust me there are needs all around you, you only need to look in your own backyard.
None of us know what it cost to willingly sacrifice our child for the world, and we never will. We will suffer loss, we will face defeat, and some times we may even lose heart, but God has given us His Son to carry us through all of those things and then some. I hope you know how special that gift really is for each of us. Every individual has an opportunity to have a relationship with Christ and all of our relationships will look different. It is called a personal relationship, you know? I trust that whatever your relationship with Him is, it will grow in the year to come.
Luke 2:10-11 states, "But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord." That is the gift we as Christians celebrate(and a whole lot of non-Christians, too). Let your gifts shine forth all year not just in December. That would be the best gift we could give to the Greatest Gift of All! I certainly hope you found your Christmas merry and your holidays happy! I also hope you took time to really reflect on the true meaning of the season...Without Christ, there would be no Christmas. I hope you took time out of your busy celebrations to wish Jesus a very Happy Birthday!
Copyright December 25, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Friday, December 17, 2010
Tis The Season
Hi Everyone! I hope you are all well. I have been missing in action but I kept thinking, "I need to post a blog." Well I have been tired and unmotivated. As is the norm, I have millions of thoughts in my head fighting to be put into print. To bad, I can't type from my head. Anyhoo, it really is my favorite time of year. I absolutely love Christmas. Yesterday, God even blessed our area with a little snow(and the kids got an unnecessary snow day, today).
I love the Christmas season. I am most happy when I focus on Christ, not the mundane activity and busyness of the holiday. If you read my last blog, which was a great guest spot by my dear friend, Tracie, you would understand why I loved it enough to post it. For some reason, it is difficult to keep Christmas simple. People and advertisers make it complicated. Well this year, my joy for the season seems less bright than in the past. I have been pondering on the reason why.
Christmas is about Christ. It is a holiday that celebrates the birth of my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. When we reflect on the original Christmas story, there is no busyness and things are simple. Joy is present too. Mary and Joseph were together and they had no place to stay. Mary didn't complain about having to birth her special gift in a manger with animals on a bed of hay. We are complaining about the cold(or the bills, or the children). The Three Wise Men were just happy to travel the roads to behold the newborn King and present him with their gifts. I am guilty of complaining and so are many of you.
We forget that on our worst day, we are still so very blessed. I am guilty of thinking about the perfect gift for this person or that. Today, as I type, I have done little shopping but lots of stressing. Would people be mad if I didn't get them anything? The reality is that some folks would. I am beginning to think that all gifts should have to come with a note about why you bought the gift and an explanation of what the recipient means to you. It would go something like this...."Mom, I bought this gift for you because love you so much and without the sacrifices you made for me, I wouldn't be the woman I am today." or "DJ, I gave you this game because the empathy you have for others, has made me more sensitive to others." Wouldn't that be awesome?!?
Giving is what the season is about. We need to remember this all year long. There are organizations that need food, clothes, and volunteers all year long. As a parent, I am extremely conscious of the fact that my children have way more than they need. It is important for me to impress upon them that there are children who are not as fortunate as they are. It is not their reality. I want them to have a heart to serve and bless others with their resources, time, and talent. All giving is not material.
This is not quite what I thought I was going to write so I guess this is the message God wanted me to impart....Jesus is the reason for the season. Have you taken any moments out of the past month to reflect on the grace and mercy of God? A new year is coming quickly. When I reflect on 2010, I can see that God has remained faithful even when I lost my focus on Him. He has protected me and kept me. He has given me peace in the midst of marital storms and parental storms. He has provided all of my needs and many of my wants. He has put people in my life who validate me, encourage me, and admonish me. He has given me the gift of health, creativity and love. I could go on and on, but this I know to be true, Christmas can be a joyous time of celebration and all kinds of other things but if you haven't put Christ into any of it, it really is pointless.
So a week before Christmas, I ask, where is your focus? Has Christ been at the center of any of your holiday activity? If you have been running around to mall after mall, and store after store, searching for this or that for this person and that, SLOW DOWN. No! Just stop! Meditate on where you were a year ago and where you are now. A lot has happened, correct? Yep, I know! Don't you just become overwhelmed by just the small minute blessings in your life? It is mind blowing, huh? God has been good to you. I know He's been all that and a bag of chips to me. Give Him the praise and honor He deserves. Look at your nativity set and really focus the real CHRISTmas Story. Do the gifts matter? Not really. People do though. Have you smiled at your elderly neighbor or offered to run an errand? Maybe he just needs an unhurried conversation to brighten his day. Have you offered the single mom with four kids a few hours of babysitting so she can get somethings done? Have you given away a coat or any gently used clothing so someone can be warm this winter. Well what are you waiting for? The best gifts are those that cost us little or no money. The gift of God in us goes a long way. Till next time remember, without Christ, there really would be no Christmas!!!!
Copyright on December 17, 201 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
I love the Christmas season. I am most happy when I focus on Christ, not the mundane activity and busyness of the holiday. If you read my last blog, which was a great guest spot by my dear friend, Tracie, you would understand why I loved it enough to post it. For some reason, it is difficult to keep Christmas simple. People and advertisers make it complicated. Well this year, my joy for the season seems less bright than in the past. I have been pondering on the reason why.
Christmas is about Christ. It is a holiday that celebrates the birth of my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. When we reflect on the original Christmas story, there is no busyness and things are simple. Joy is present too. Mary and Joseph were together and they had no place to stay. Mary didn't complain about having to birth her special gift in a manger with animals on a bed of hay. We are complaining about the cold(or the bills, or the children). The Three Wise Men were just happy to travel the roads to behold the newborn King and present him with their gifts. I am guilty of complaining and so are many of you.
We forget that on our worst day, we are still so very blessed. I am guilty of thinking about the perfect gift for this person or that. Today, as I type, I have done little shopping but lots of stressing. Would people be mad if I didn't get them anything? The reality is that some folks would. I am beginning to think that all gifts should have to come with a note about why you bought the gift and an explanation of what the recipient means to you. It would go something like this...."Mom, I bought this gift for you because love you so much and without the sacrifices you made for me, I wouldn't be the woman I am today." or "DJ, I gave you this game because the empathy you have for others, has made me more sensitive to others." Wouldn't that be awesome?!?
Giving is what the season is about. We need to remember this all year long. There are organizations that need food, clothes, and volunteers all year long. As a parent, I am extremely conscious of the fact that my children have way more than they need. It is important for me to impress upon them that there are children who are not as fortunate as they are. It is not their reality. I want them to have a heart to serve and bless others with their resources, time, and talent. All giving is not material.
This is not quite what I thought I was going to write so I guess this is the message God wanted me to impart....Jesus is the reason for the season. Have you taken any moments out of the past month to reflect on the grace and mercy of God? A new year is coming quickly. When I reflect on 2010, I can see that God has remained faithful even when I lost my focus on Him. He has protected me and kept me. He has given me peace in the midst of marital storms and parental storms. He has provided all of my needs and many of my wants. He has put people in my life who validate me, encourage me, and admonish me. He has given me the gift of health, creativity and love. I could go on and on, but this I know to be true, Christmas can be a joyous time of celebration and all kinds of other things but if you haven't put Christ into any of it, it really is pointless.
So a week before Christmas, I ask, where is your focus? Has Christ been at the center of any of your holiday activity? If you have been running around to mall after mall, and store after store, searching for this or that for this person and that, SLOW DOWN. No! Just stop! Meditate on where you were a year ago and where you are now. A lot has happened, correct? Yep, I know! Don't you just become overwhelmed by just the small minute blessings in your life? It is mind blowing, huh? God has been good to you. I know He's been all that and a bag of chips to me. Give Him the praise and honor He deserves. Look at your nativity set and really focus the real CHRISTmas Story. Do the gifts matter? Not really. People do though. Have you smiled at your elderly neighbor or offered to run an errand? Maybe he just needs an unhurried conversation to brighten his day. Have you offered the single mom with four kids a few hours of babysitting so she can get somethings done? Have you given away a coat or any gently used clothing so someone can be warm this winter. Well what are you waiting for? The best gifts are those that cost us little or no money. The gift of God in us goes a long way. Till next time remember, without Christ, there really would be no Christmas!!!!
Copyright on December 17, 201 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Saturday, December 4, 2010
A Mary Christmas
So December has rolled in rather quietly and the reality is that the celebration of Christ's birth is imminently near. It is easy for us to get caught up in the holiday bustle and FORGET that the true focus of Christmas is Christ. No matter how much we love Him, it is easy to get caught up and thrown off balance. The other day, my dear friend Tracie asked me to proofread a devotional that she would deliver to the leadership team of our Bible Study. I loved it and asked her if I could share. She was willing and the following are her words. Let us know what you think!
As the calendar turned to expose November, my mind immediately turned to Christmas…(how could they not when the stores had already decked their aisles)...how were we going to afford it, where were we going to put the tree and decorations, we are in a new house after all, would Meredith be here, would my mom visit, I really would like to get the kitchen painted before the holiday, what picture will we send out this year…..but regrettably I admit, none of my thoughts were consumed with how can I “Worship my Savior”, how could I “Prepare for His Birth”….they were all selfish/self-centered thoughts and worries.
So I began to be convicted daily about the amount of time I spend Preparing to Celebrate the Season when what I truly wanted/needed to do is Worship my Savior….. How do I Worship rather than Celebrate….To Celebrate is to observe or commemorate and event through public festivities and gatherings…To Worship is to express adoring reverence or regard personally through ardent devotion….WOW, I don’t’ know that I have ever really worshipped Christmas (the coming of the Savior...) but I know I have done a lot of celebrating.
In my effort to seek out how to do just that…Worship my Savior this year rather than merely Celebrate the Season, I began daily reading the account of Christs incarnation and studying the ONE biblical example of a woman who had Prepared for the Saviors arrival….Mary.
So how do we have “A Mary Christmas”? Revisit and re-read Luke 1:26 – 39 and Luke 2:4 – 20 which tell the original Christmas story. Let's use the word "SIMPLE" as an acronym for how we can keep Christ in Christmas and not major on the minor this holiday season as well as follow Mary's example.
S – Scriptural : Mary sang hymns and spiritual songs…”The Magnificat”, she recognized the Messiah of Old Testament as the angel appointed her mother of the Most High God. So often this time of year when our focus should be on God and His Word, it is laid aside in an effort to accomplish the many other tasks on our to-do list….we’ll get back to a quiet time in the New Year…we’ll resolve. Make Christmas Scriptural….We give our children three gifts each year, a gift of want, a gift of need and a gift of love…in keeping with the 3 gifts Jesus received from the Maggi. I read an article this year of a family whose gifts are based on Luke 2:40..”And the child grew and became strong; he was filled with wisdom and the grace of God was upon Him.” Is your Advent calendar filled with candy or treats, do you open the door to receive a sweet, or do you open the door to taste and see that the Lord is good…add a short Scripture reading to each day.
I – Intentional: Mary was intentional about her preparation…she asked the angel a specific question in v. 34 of Chapter 1, “how will this be”. In v. 39 of that same Chapter, Mary got ready and hurried to Elizabeth's home. We receive so many invitations and offers, we have so many commitments this time of year, each student has a concert or performance, the angel choir is singing, the company Christmas party, the ladies Christmas brunch….the list goes on and on….but we need to be intentional with our time…Determine in your heart and mind ahead of time what you will and wont participate in, the activities you do and don’t have time for….and I promise you, it is easier if you keep in mind that you want to Worship the Savior this year rather than Celebrate a Season.
M – Memorable: Luke 2:19, But Mary, Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart”….The word treasured in that verse in the Greek means to “preserve” or “to make a memory of”…Mary made a memory of these things…..Is my Christmas memorable to me and my children, or do I want to forget them at the end of December and rush into January….am I making memories?
P – Purposeful: in verse 31 – 33, Mary receives her purpose, and she then lives the rest of her life fulfilling that purpose. If my purpose is to Worship the Savior this December, then the commitments I make, events I attend and gifts I give should be fulfilling that purpose….what is my purpose behind baking 15 types of cookies..? To bless the neighbors with a plate, or to win the Betty Crocker award? What is my purpose for attending all of those events….to be the Christmas Queen, to impress someone else, or because it’s an opportunity to witness to the lost world around me…? What is your purpose…?
L – Lasting/Eternal: Mary had an eternal perspective…in v. 33, the angel told Mary, he (the son you will bear) Jesus will reign over the house of Jacob forever and his kingdom will never end. Is what I am doing to prepare this Advent season temporal or eternal….do those 15 different types of cookies have any eternal value….Yes, if they are given with a card that shares the true meaning of Christmas, but No, if they are just for the neighborhood cookie exchange. Luke 2:19 again says Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart….What are you treasuring up this Christmas…? Matthew 6:19 - 24 tells us, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven where moth and rust do not destroy and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
E – Enjoyable: In the midst of announcement, anticipation and arrival…Mary pondered which in the Greek means “to meditate, to think quietly, soberly, deeply” “ to appraise, to weigh in the mind the value of”…Mary sat in the straw of a stable, cuddled the Savior and enjoyed….as the angels around her rejoiced, the shepherds beside her shard, and she enjoyed…..
I pray you have “A Mary Christmas”….May you Worship the Savior!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on December 4, 2010
As the calendar turned to expose November, my mind immediately turned to Christmas…(how could they not when the stores had already decked their aisles)...how were we going to afford it, where were we going to put the tree and decorations, we are in a new house after all, would Meredith be here, would my mom visit, I really would like to get the kitchen painted before the holiday, what picture will we send out this year…..but regrettably I admit, none of my thoughts were consumed with how can I “Worship my Savior”, how could I “Prepare for His Birth”….they were all selfish/self-centered thoughts and worries.
So I began to be convicted daily about the amount of time I spend Preparing to Celebrate the Season when what I truly wanted/needed to do is Worship my Savior….. How do I Worship rather than Celebrate….To Celebrate is to observe or commemorate and event through public festivities and gatherings…To Worship is to express adoring reverence or regard personally through ardent devotion….WOW, I don’t’ know that I have ever really worshipped Christmas (the coming of the Savior...) but I know I have done a lot of celebrating.
In my effort to seek out how to do just that…Worship my Savior this year rather than merely Celebrate the Season, I began daily reading the account of Christs incarnation and studying the ONE biblical example of a woman who had Prepared for the Saviors arrival….Mary.
So how do we have “A Mary Christmas”? Revisit and re-read Luke 1:26 – 39 and Luke 2:4 – 20 which tell the original Christmas story. Let's use the word "SIMPLE" as an acronym for how we can keep Christ in Christmas and not major on the minor this holiday season as well as follow Mary's example.
S – Scriptural : Mary sang hymns and spiritual songs…”The Magnificat”, she recognized the Messiah of Old Testament as the angel appointed her mother of the Most High God. So often this time of year when our focus should be on God and His Word, it is laid aside in an effort to accomplish the many other tasks on our to-do list….we’ll get back to a quiet time in the New Year…we’ll resolve. Make Christmas Scriptural….We give our children three gifts each year, a gift of want, a gift of need and a gift of love…in keeping with the 3 gifts Jesus received from the Maggi. I read an article this year of a family whose gifts are based on Luke 2:40..”And the child grew and became strong; he was filled with wisdom and the grace of God was upon Him.” Is your Advent calendar filled with candy or treats, do you open the door to receive a sweet, or do you open the door to taste and see that the Lord is good…add a short Scripture reading to each day.
I – Intentional: Mary was intentional about her preparation…she asked the angel a specific question in v. 34 of Chapter 1, “how will this be”. In v. 39 of that same Chapter, Mary got ready and hurried to Elizabeth's home. We receive so many invitations and offers, we have so many commitments this time of year, each student has a concert or performance, the angel choir is singing, the company Christmas party, the ladies Christmas brunch….the list goes on and on….but we need to be intentional with our time…Determine in your heart and mind ahead of time what you will and wont participate in, the activities you do and don’t have time for….and I promise you, it is easier if you keep in mind that you want to Worship the Savior this year rather than Celebrate a Season.
M – Memorable: Luke 2:19, But Mary, Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart”….The word treasured in that verse in the Greek means to “preserve” or “to make a memory of”…Mary made a memory of these things…..Is my Christmas memorable to me and my children, or do I want to forget them at the end of December and rush into January….am I making memories?
P – Purposeful: in verse 31 – 33, Mary receives her purpose, and she then lives the rest of her life fulfilling that purpose. If my purpose is to Worship the Savior this December, then the commitments I make, events I attend and gifts I give should be fulfilling that purpose….what is my purpose behind baking 15 types of cookies..? To bless the neighbors with a plate, or to win the Betty Crocker award? What is my purpose for attending all of those events….to be the Christmas Queen, to impress someone else, or because it’s an opportunity to witness to the lost world around me…? What is your purpose…?
L – Lasting/Eternal: Mary had an eternal perspective…in v. 33, the angel told Mary, he (the son you will bear) Jesus will reign over the house of Jacob forever and his kingdom will never end. Is what I am doing to prepare this Advent season temporal or eternal….do those 15 different types of cookies have any eternal value….Yes, if they are given with a card that shares the true meaning of Christmas, but No, if they are just for the neighborhood cookie exchange. Luke 2:19 again says Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart….What are you treasuring up this Christmas…? Matthew 6:19 - 24 tells us, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven where moth and rust do not destroy and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
E – Enjoyable: In the midst of announcement, anticipation and arrival…Mary pondered which in the Greek means “to meditate, to think quietly, soberly, deeply” “ to appraise, to weigh in the mind the value of”…Mary sat in the straw of a stable, cuddled the Savior and enjoyed….as the angels around her rejoiced, the shepherds beside her shard, and she enjoyed…..
I pray you have “A Mary Christmas”….May you Worship the Savior!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on December 4, 2010
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
The Money Challenge
As we enter the joyous season of Christmas and all the holiday festivities that go along with the celebration, I want to challenge each of you in the area of your finances. I know some of you are already formulating your resolutions so that 2011 can be a bigger better year for you and your families, so this challenge is a winner. Oh, it is also really easy too. I got this from my cousin and fellow blogger, Toot! Shout out to her! Hey! She
borrowed the idea from one of her YouTube subscribers. I know you all know that I am brilliant but I can't take credit for this wonderful idea.
Here's how it works. On the first week you save $1. No, that wasn't a typo, you only need to save $1. The second week you save $2. The third week $3. Do you see the pattern yet? The amount of money being saved coincides with the week that you are saving it. So for the first say month or so, you are putting away less money than one cup of some fancy smancy Starbucks concoction. At the most, $52 is what you will sacrifice, I'm not sure if you can actually visualize the savings, but at the end of the challenge you'll have over $1300. Just think if you start now, you will have a lovely amount of cash with which to spend on Christmas gifts. I think you might even still be able to reach it just in time to hang out with the masses at the Black Fridaymass chaos sales. If that isn't your thing, you can have a great amount to go on a mice trip. or you can save it and start all over again. We aren't talking financial freedom here but.....if you play your cards right and say, open an interest bearing account into which you deposit your money whenever it reaches say $50, you will have a nice chunk of change to play with. What an accomplishment! You will thank me later! So what do you say? Are you up to it? Let's get it then! Keep me posted on your progress. I am on week 3.
On a side note, I am typing this blog with a heavy heart. Today would have been my Daddy's 66th birthday. I have all kinds of memories of him. I miss talking to him and I miss his cooking. That man could make his plate look better than everyone else's. He was a good confidante and he really was non-judgemental. Every now I then, I could use his perspective on a bunch of things. RIP Gerald William Cole, Sr. AKA "Butch." Anyhoo, I am ending now before I cry again. Have a blessed Thanksgiving!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on November 23, 2010
borrowed the idea from one of her YouTube subscribers. I know you all know that I am brilliant but I can't take credit for this wonderful idea.
Here's how it works. On the first week you save $1. No, that wasn't a typo, you only need to save $1. The second week you save $2. The third week $3. Do you see the pattern yet? The amount of money being saved coincides with the week that you are saving it. So for the first say month or so, you are putting away less money than one cup of some fancy smancy Starbucks concoction. At the most, $52 is what you will sacrifice, I'm not sure if you can actually visualize the savings, but at the end of the challenge you'll have over $1300. Just think if you start now, you will have a lovely amount of cash with which to spend on Christmas gifts. I think you might even still be able to reach it just in time to hang out with the masses at the Black Friday
On a side note, I am typing this blog with a heavy heart. Today would have been my Daddy's 66th birthday. I have all kinds of memories of him. I miss talking to him and I miss his cooking. That man could make his plate look better than everyone else's. He was a good confidante and he really was non-judgemental. Every now I then, I could use his perspective on a bunch of things. RIP Gerald William Cole, Sr. AKA "Butch." Anyhoo, I am ending now before I cry again. Have a blessed Thanksgiving!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on November 23, 2010
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) is the unexpected, sudden death of a child under age 1 in which an autopsy does not show an explainable cause of death. Another common name for SIDS is crib death. There are no symptoms. Babies who die of SIDS do not appear to suffer or struggle. The cause of SIDS is unknown, although there are several theories. Many doctors and researchers now believe that SIDS is not a single condition that is always caused by the same medical problems, but infant death caused by several different factors. These factors may include problems with sleep arousal or an inability to sense a build-up of carbon dioxide in the blood. Almost all SIDS deaths occur without any warning or symptoms when the infant is thought to be sleeping. SIDS is most likely to occur between 2 and 4 months of age, and 90% occur by 6 months of age. It occurs more often in winter months, with the peak in January. There is also a greater rate of SIDS among Native and African Americans. SIDS affects boys more often than girls.
There are also other factors which can increase the risk of SIDS. The factors are as follows: Babies who sleep on their stomachs. Babies who are around cigarette smoke while in the womb or after being born. Babies who sleep in the same bed as their parents. Babies who have soft bedding in the crib. Multiple birth babies (being a twin, triplet, etc.). Premature babies. Babies who have a brother or sister who had SIDS. Mothers who smoke or use illegal drugs. Teen mothers. Short time period between pregnancies. Late or no prenatal care. Situations of poverty. SIDS remains a significant cause of death in infants under one year old. Thousands of babies die of SIDS in the United States each year.
Preventative measures for SIDS, includes putting infants to sleep on their backs, avoiding soft bedding material, and avoiding hot room temperatures. Babies should sleep in cribs with firm tight fitting mattresses free of pillows and comforters. The environment should be smoke free.
So why the need for a blog on SIDS? Well it is personal. On October 12, 2010, Julius Luciano Torres, our great nephew, was suddenly taken from his extremely loving parents and it was ruled that SIDS was the reason. Our hearts break for Tiffany and Dennis every day. Julius was so handsome(see pic below) and they only got to spend 4.5 months with him. So to pay honor to a beautiful but way to short life, I felt necessary to educate you. I don't know what the pain feels like for them but I know that being a parent causes you to step out of yourself and love another human being in a way that you can't even imagine till that bundle of comes into your life.
Dennis and Tiffany are young and they are deeply saddened with a pain many of us will never experience. While we go on with our lives, they are still reeling and trying to handle their grief on a daily basis. Not a day goes by though that I don't utter a small prayer of comfort for them and ask God to give them what they need for that moment because each moment is a test of their fortitude. Sometimes that is what you need, strength for the moment which eventually will become hours, days, and weeks where God has carried you through those dark times. They already know that they can't deal with the holidays because their grief is too raw. In recognizing this, they have decided to give charitable donations in Julius' honor in lieu of gifts to their family members. If you are considering any donations before the year end or at any time, please consider Julius' Memorial Fund.
Julius Luciano Torres
May 30, 2010-October 12, 2010
Parents:
Tiffany and Dennis Torres
123 Shadow Ct. SW, Huntsville, AL 35824
Donations can be made online at: www.sids.org/online/index.html .
Or checks can be mailed to: American SIDS Institute, 528 Raven Way, Naples, Florida 34110
They will appreciate the gesture of kindness. Till next time, peace and blessings to each of you.
There are also other factors which can increase the risk of SIDS. The factors are as follows: Babies who sleep on their stomachs. Babies who are around cigarette smoke while in the womb or after being born. Babies who sleep in the same bed as their parents. Babies who have soft bedding in the crib. Multiple birth babies (being a twin, triplet, etc.). Premature babies. Babies who have a brother or sister who had SIDS. Mothers who smoke or use illegal drugs. Teen mothers. Short time period between pregnancies. Late or no prenatal care. Situations of poverty. SIDS remains a significant cause of death in infants under one year old. Thousands of babies die of SIDS in the United States each year.
Preventative measures for SIDS, includes putting infants to sleep on their backs, avoiding soft bedding material, and avoiding hot room temperatures. Babies should sleep in cribs with firm tight fitting mattresses free of pillows and comforters. The environment should be smoke free.
So why the need for a blog on SIDS? Well it is personal. On October 12, 2010, Julius Luciano Torres, our great nephew, was suddenly taken from his extremely loving parents and it was ruled that SIDS was the reason. Our hearts break for Tiffany and Dennis every day. Julius was so handsome(see pic below) and they only got to spend 4.5 months with him. So to pay honor to a beautiful but way to short life, I felt necessary to educate you. I don't know what the pain feels like for them but I know that being a parent causes you to step out of yourself and love another human being in a way that you can't even imagine till that bundle of comes into your life.
Dennis and Tiffany are young and they are deeply saddened with a pain many of us will never experience. While we go on with our lives, they are still reeling and trying to handle their grief on a daily basis. Not a day goes by though that I don't utter a small prayer of comfort for them and ask God to give them what they need for that moment because each moment is a test of their fortitude. Sometimes that is what you need, strength for the moment which eventually will become hours, days, and weeks where God has carried you through those dark times. They already know that they can't deal with the holidays because their grief is too raw. In recognizing this, they have decided to give charitable donations in Julius' honor in lieu of gifts to their family members. If you are considering any donations before the year end or at any time, please consider Julius' Memorial Fund.
Julius Luciano Torres
May 30, 2010-October 12, 2010
Parents:
Tiffany and Dennis Torres
123 Shadow Ct. SW, Huntsville, AL 35824
Donations can be made online at: www.sids.org/online/index.html .
Or checks can be mailed to: American SIDS Institute, 528 Raven Way, Naples, Florida 34110
They will appreciate the gesture of kindness. Till next time, peace and blessings to each of you.
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on November 13, 2010
Thursday, November 11, 2010
For Colored Girls
Rare is the opportunity for me to see a movie the very weekend that it comes out but I got to see this one. I had a date night with my husband. We went to see Tyler Perry's latest production, For Colored Girls. The movie was an adaptation of Ntozake Shange's, For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow Is Enuf
, written in 1975. It was also a Broadway production in 1976. The subject matter was critically acclaimed and extremely successful in terms of its relevant content.
I read the book years ago, so I knew that the subject matter was deeply intense. I wondered how it would translate into film, especially at the hands of Tyler Perry. I like Tyler but I know I've said it before, the endings of his movies leave much to be desired. Seeing how he did not write this film, I was a bit excited. By all accounts, he put together a varied but talented cast to pull the movie off. The cast consisted of old and new actresses, male and females in various hues. Most importantly, he did not pen the film.
I liked the movie. It deals with some dark issues, so if you are looking to laugh, there will be few of those. Each woman in the film has an issue that she is dealing with and she also has a color assigned(for lack of a better word) to her. In each case, there is a man involved, some visible, some not. The story is still relevant today just in a different way. You do have to pay attention to the poetry which is weaved into the dialogue. It is done in an appropriate manner and it also clarifies some of the things going on in the film. SN: There were two women who exited the theater at the same time we did and were complaining about the use of poetry. I wanted to scream at their ignorance! The book itself is composed of poetry and prose so that is a no brainer! Let me reiterate that exposure is EVERYTHING!!!
I am not going to give aspects of the film away. I would encourage you to check out the book which is only about 80 pages in length so the movie really makes sense to you. If you don't read it, pay attention to the dialogue, especially when it switches to poetry. I am at odds with the fact that Janet Jackson's name appeared first in the opening of the film. Everyone else in the film was placed in alphabetical order. Is she supposed to be the star? I certainly don't think she is an actress of that caliber, nor do I think she deserved to be billed over most of the seasoned actresses. (Y'all know TP must be hitting that A$$). Her acting was mediocre at best. Her over done red lipstick was killing me.
Some of the story lines are easier to follow than others. Others are also more captivating and easier to translate to film. For example, Whoopi's storyline is only made clear by listening to her argument with her daughter, played by Thandie Newton. I kept having Celie flashbacks during her monologue. If there is to be any discussion of awards, hands down, I think it should go to Kimberly Elise, followed by Anika Noni Rose. I had a discussion with my cousin about this and she disagreed but mainly because the movie felt choppy. After I explained why, she was in agreement with my assessment. Kimberly Elise has the most comprehensive role when you consider all that she is dealing with in the movie and she plays the complexities of the role quite flawlessly. I have long said that she is one of the most under-rated actresses of our time. Anika Noni Rose's performance is also spot on. It is her monologue which is painstakingly delivered to Hill Harper(who seems a bit aloof) which makes me realize that she has talent that we've not even begun to see. Macy Gray has a small role in the film, but it seems as if the role is tailor made for her. She has a knack for the offbeat, quirky, and dramatic. She doesn't disappoint.
I am not saying that the remaining actresses don't act well. For the most part they do. Loretta Devine's role is probably one of the lightest in the film and she delivers in making you laugh but still gives you something to think about(Take back your stuff!). Tessa Thompson, is a newcomer. I'd like to see where she will go from here. Thandie Newton has a varied resume so to me she was the wild card for the film. While tortured, her role might have been the most fun to execute. Phylicia Rashad paid a nosy matronly old bitty who holds things together. Do we expect anything less from Claire Huxtable? I think not. Kerry Washington is one of my favorites, unfortunately, I wasn't really feeling her in this role. Her relationship with Hill Harper doesn't come off as believable to me and her emotions don't ring true with what she is enduring through the film. What I do appreciate is how Tyler Perry connected all the women because you do start out wondering how they will all end up together. It is not a tidy neat little package but pain hurt, depression, and drama that draws the women in this story together.
So that is my generic take on the film. I want you to see it and share your opinion. I don't want to give away the film. I know many of my readers and I know they haven't yet had the opportunity to see the film. I am going to see it again with my girl, Sonja. I am sure she will have a wealth of opinions for me to consider that differ from my own. I hate when people ruin the good(or not so good stuff) for me so, I am holding back. Holla at me and tell me what you think. Are there going to be awards? for whom? Did Tyler Perry do justice to the film? I love a good debate or another train of thought. Till next time, think about the women in your life. They have all been through or will g through some drama in life that just might take them to the thought of suicide. Let's pray that there is a support system to draw them back and whisper new life into their situation!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on November 11, 2010
, written in 1975. It was also a Broadway production in 1976. The subject matter was critically acclaimed and extremely successful in terms of its relevant content.I read the book years ago, so I knew that the subject matter was deeply intense. I wondered how it would translate into film, especially at the hands of Tyler Perry. I like Tyler but I know I've said it before, the endings of his movies leave much to be desired. Seeing how he did not write this film, I was a bit excited. By all accounts, he put together a varied but talented cast to pull the movie off. The cast consisted of old and new actresses, male and females in various hues. Most importantly, he did not pen the film.
I liked the movie. It deals with some dark issues, so if you are looking to laugh, there will be few of those. Each woman in the film has an issue that she is dealing with and she also has a color assigned(for lack of a better word) to her. In each case, there is a man involved, some visible, some not. The story is still relevant today just in a different way. You do have to pay attention to the poetry which is weaved into the dialogue. It is done in an appropriate manner and it also clarifies some of the things going on in the film. SN: There were two women who exited the theater at the same time we did and were complaining about the use of poetry. I wanted to scream at their ignorance! The book itself is composed of poetry and prose so that is a no brainer! Let me reiterate that exposure is EVERYTHING!!!
I am not going to give aspects of the film away. I would encourage you to check out the book which is only about 80 pages in length so the movie really makes sense to you. If you don't read it, pay attention to the dialogue, especially when it switches to poetry. I am at odds with the fact that Janet Jackson's name appeared first in the opening of the film. Everyone else in the film was placed in alphabetical order. Is she supposed to be the star? I certainly don't think she is an actress of that caliber, nor do I think she deserved to be billed over most of the seasoned actresses. (Y'all know TP must be hitting that A$$). Her acting was mediocre at best. Her over done red lipstick was killing me.
Some of the story lines are easier to follow than others. Others are also more captivating and easier to translate to film. For example, Whoopi's storyline is only made clear by listening to her argument with her daughter, played by Thandie Newton. I kept having Celie flashbacks during her monologue. If there is to be any discussion of awards, hands down, I think it should go to Kimberly Elise, followed by Anika Noni Rose. I had a discussion with my cousin about this and she disagreed but mainly because the movie felt choppy. After I explained why, she was in agreement with my assessment. Kimberly Elise has the most comprehensive role when you consider all that she is dealing with in the movie and she plays the complexities of the role quite flawlessly. I have long said that she is one of the most under-rated actresses of our time. Anika Noni Rose's performance is also spot on. It is her monologue which is painstakingly delivered to Hill Harper(who seems a bit aloof) which makes me realize that she has talent that we've not even begun to see. Macy Gray has a small role in the film, but it seems as if the role is tailor made for her. She has a knack for the offbeat, quirky, and dramatic. She doesn't disappoint.
I am not saying that the remaining actresses don't act well. For the most part they do. Loretta Devine's role is probably one of the lightest in the film and she delivers in making you laugh but still gives you something to think about(Take back your stuff!). Tessa Thompson, is a newcomer. I'd like to see where she will go from here. Thandie Newton has a varied resume so to me she was the wild card for the film. While tortured, her role might have been the most fun to execute. Phylicia Rashad paid a nosy matronly old bitty who holds things together. Do we expect anything less from Claire Huxtable? I think not. Kerry Washington is one of my favorites, unfortunately, I wasn't really feeling her in this role. Her relationship with Hill Harper doesn't come off as believable to me and her emotions don't ring true with what she is enduring through the film. What I do appreciate is how Tyler Perry connected all the women because you do start out wondering how they will all end up together. It is not a tidy neat little package but pain hurt, depression, and drama that draws the women in this story together.
So that is my generic take on the film. I want you to see it and share your opinion. I don't want to give away the film. I know many of my readers and I know they haven't yet had the opportunity to see the film. I am going to see it again with my girl, Sonja. I am sure she will have a wealth of opinions for me to consider that differ from my own. I hate when people ruin the good(or not so good stuff) for me so, I am holding back. Holla at me and tell me what you think. Are there going to be awards? for whom? Did Tyler Perry do justice to the film? I love a good debate or another train of thought. Till next time, think about the women in your life. They have all been through or will g through some drama in life that just might take them to the thought of suicide. Let's pray that there is a support system to draw them back and whisper new life into their situation!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on November 11, 2010
Friday, November 5, 2010
About Suicide
In my neighborhood, there have been a number of teen suicides. The issue concerns me for many reasons. Most of the victims have been males under the age of 19. It saddens me that anyone finds their life in such a hopeless state that they would consider ending it. There are a number of statistics that I can give you but I am only going to share a few.
Over one million people commit suicide every year. The World Health Organization estimates that it is the thirteenth-leading cause of death worldwide. It is a leading cause of death among teenagers and adults under 35. There are an estimated 10 to 20 million non-fatal attempted suicides every year worldwide.
No one is immune to suicide and the long term impact it can have on a school or community. I had a conversation with my 12 year old and her attitude on the subject was rather cavalier and a little selfish too. It made me realize that sometimes children really don't have a grasp of the global impact of their actions. Suicide leaves a slew of grief stricken victims in its wake. Not only is the family hurt, but there are friends, teachers, and acquaintances who will be left with questions and various emotions to deal with.
If you are a teen or adult who feels such a state of despair, please talk to someone. Life is precious. The suicide hot line number is 1-800-273-8255. God has a plan for your life and in Him you can find hope, peace, and the answers to life's most pressing issues. I know it sounds so easy to say. I don't take any one's plight lightly. Your perception is your reality. I just know, things can always be worse. They really can. I challenge you to take a chance and give life another opportunity. Taking a step to admit you need help, is a HUGE step to getting things right in your life. Right doesn't mean perfect. Despite how things appear, no person has a perfect life. Let me repeat, the suicide hot line number is 1-800-273-8255. Let someone bless you!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on November 5, 2010
Over one million people commit suicide every year. The World Health Organization estimates that it is the thirteenth-leading cause of death worldwide. It is a leading cause of death among teenagers and adults under 35. There are an estimated 10 to 20 million non-fatal attempted suicides every year worldwide.
No one is immune to suicide and the long term impact it can have on a school or community. I had a conversation with my 12 year old and her attitude on the subject was rather cavalier and a little selfish too. It made me realize that sometimes children really don't have a grasp of the global impact of their actions. Suicide leaves a slew of grief stricken victims in its wake. Not only is the family hurt, but there are friends, teachers, and acquaintances who will be left with questions and various emotions to deal with.
If you are a teen or adult who feels such a state of despair, please talk to someone. Life is precious. The suicide hot line number is 1-800-273-8255. God has a plan for your life and in Him you can find hope, peace, and the answers to life's most pressing issues. I know it sounds so easy to say. I don't take any one's plight lightly. Your perception is your reality. I just know, things can always be worse. They really can. I challenge you to take a chance and give life another opportunity. Taking a step to admit you need help, is a HUGE step to getting things right in your life. Right doesn't mean perfect. Despite how things appear, no person has a perfect life. Let me repeat, the suicide hot line number is 1-800-273-8255. Let someone bless you!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on November 5, 2010
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
PSA
Today is Election Day! Big deal, right? Yeah, it is a big deal, especially if you are an African American or a woman. People fought, bled, and even died for you to exercise that right. You can't complain about the shituation if you don't let your own voice be heard. I understand the complacent attitudes...it takes way too long to see change in the political arena. I agree. What we need to be seeking is term limits for both Senate and Congress. I think twelve years is enough for all of them. It would alleviate a climate of not getting anything done. Ahh, but I digress...probably a future blog but surely, you are all sick of stopping progress for the sake of being contentious(i.e. the President is of a different political affiliation). So anyhoo, I am imploring you to go to the polls and let your voice be heard. We may not agree politically but it is still important. So that's it. I have no more to say! ROCK THE VOTE!
Thursday, October 28, 2010
My Roles, Defined
Hey Y'all...My last post was about who I am as a person. I left some stuff out but if you follow me, you probably have a fairly decent grasp of some things that I failed to mention. I mentioned that we aren't defined by what we do. We all have roles, and today, I thought I'd share some of those with you. So not only will you know who I am as a person but also what roles I play in my life.
I am a Child of God. As such, it is my responsibility to live a life pleasing to Him. If I can achieve that daily, everything else should fall in to place. I also have a duty to share the love of Christ with others and the fact that he died on the cross to save sinners and we are all sinners in need of a Saviour. I am working on the sharing part.
I am a wife. I married one of my best friends almost 15 years ago. I wrote a post on Dmitri in May. I love that man and I expect to grow old with him. Our marriage has had its share of ups and downs. I am no quitter and we fight daily to maintain the love we have for each other. Satan would like nothing better than to destroy the one relationship that Christ chose to reflect His with the church.
I am a mother, a Stay at Home one at that. Lawd, Lawd, Lawd! That has to be one of the most stressful roles entrusted to me. Chante and Dmitri II are two of the greatest gifts that God blessed me with. They drive me nuts. They make me laugh and cry and scream. At the end of the day, I simply want to raise God-fearing, healthy children who can function well in life. I want them to make good decisions and respect others and I want them to impact their community for the better. Encompassed in this role are several others: motivational speaker, chauffeur, psychologist, maid, chef, event planner, doctor, lawyer, and keeper of things. I'm sure I left some role out but you get the idea. I can't believe that I used to work full time and still do all these things. Ahh but I am a woman, an African-American woman, and we have done this since the beginning of time. The trick is to learn to not forget me in the midst of all the other roles.
I am a daughter(and a grand-daughter). My mom and my 96 year old grandma are the greatest influences in my life. I feel both of them have impacted my life for the best. They have equipped me to be a survivor no despite the circumstances that come my way. My mom raised my brother, Gerald and I, with little money and a whole lot of family support. She instilled great values and pride in both of us. She raised us to be independent and resilient. She encouraged us to embrace our family, speak up, and remain true to our beliefs. My grandmother is quiet but very wise. She made things happen without being overbearing and she always reminded me to trust God and pray. She taught me that we can have peace even when things aren't going well.
I am a sister. I love my siblings. I wished I lived closer to my crazy brother. His life is undergoing a serious change and I am very happy to see that happen. I just wish I could witness it up close and personally. I live close to my half sister. There is a 12 year difference in our ages and we did not grow up in the same house(or state for that matter). We are not as close as I would like us to be. Perhaps with time all things will change...I might eventually live closer to Gerald and I might eventually be closer to Stephanie. My father's wish was that we would be close and remain that way.
I am a friend. I love my friends. I have been blessed with a diverse, unique, and dynamic group of women who pray for me, encourage me, and love me for who I am. Every friendship has its own flavor but I wouldn't trade any of the women in my life. They each influence me to do better and be better. I can laugh, cry, eat, and drop my basket with almost everyone of them. I trust them and I value their opinions. Some of them are the sister I didn't have growing up. Shout outs to Sonja, Rose, Dana, Nikki, Jai, Tracie, Dorna, Monica C, Carlene, Monique, Mina, and Jeanine. Each of you hold a very special place in my heart. This list is by no means representative of all the friendships that I maintain. I don't wish to offend anyone who is my friend and does not appear on this list, but with the exception of four of these names, every one of the women has been in my life for over 20 years. The other four women have come into my life in the past 5 years and have greatly impacted me for the better. I am most transparent with these women and yes, they do convict and challenge me when I am in a fit of craziness. :) I thank God for them daily because they have stood with me through the good, the bad, and especially the ugly. Some folks don't have one good friend so I know that it is a blessing to have several.
I am a niece, a cousin, an aunt, and a sister in law. I have a lot of family. I don't live near most of them and I hate that I am missing out on seeing some of them grow or experiencing a true relationship not hindered by e-mail, Facebook, or even text messages. My kids will probably not have close relationships with a lot of their family because they are scattered all over the United States. We need family reunions all around. My family is very supportive of me and my children despite our distance.
I am a blogger. If you are reading this, you know I have a purpose for developing and writing this blog. SN: this role could encompass the fact that I am a repressed English teacher and a future author. Blogging has been a good outlet for me.
I am a foodie. I love good food! It is one of the things my hubby and I have in common. My favorite foods are crab cakes, macaroni and cheese, peach cobbler, and ice cream. I like good chocolate and I love tea. I don't do much coffee. I like to cook and bake. I am a Pepsi lover and I like vodka or rum if alcohol is involved. By the way, I make an excellent daiquiri(sangria too).
I am a bibliophile. I love, love, love to read. Yep, I said it before and I will continue to say it again and again...Reading is fundamental. Books are easy to find and you can borrow them from the library. Translation, it is a free habit(cheap, cheap, cheap). You need a recommendation, I have posted a couple of book lists and I have mentioned several of my absolute favs in previous blogs.
Well that covers the basics. I could go on and on. Like most of you, I wear several hats every day. I try to do every one of them to the best of my God given ability. Embrace the life you live. Roles are just that, a part you play in the journey of life. They change daily, some are permanent and some are temporary. God doesn't give us more than we can bear so wherever you are and whatever station, that you are in, stay the course. Your role does not define the essence of who you are. Till next time, think about who you are as well as the roles that you play. There is a difference, you know. Have a lovely weekend!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on October 28, 2010
I am a Child of God. As such, it is my responsibility to live a life pleasing to Him. If I can achieve that daily, everything else should fall in to place. I also have a duty to share the love of Christ with others and the fact that he died on the cross to save sinners and we are all sinners in need of a Saviour. I am working on the sharing part.
I am a wife. I married one of my best friends almost 15 years ago. I wrote a post on Dmitri in May. I love that man and I expect to grow old with him. Our marriage has had its share of ups and downs. I am no quitter and we fight daily to maintain the love we have for each other. Satan would like nothing better than to destroy the one relationship that Christ chose to reflect His with the church.
I am a mother, a Stay at Home one at that. Lawd, Lawd, Lawd! That has to be one of the most stressful roles entrusted to me. Chante and Dmitri II are two of the greatest gifts that God blessed me with. They drive me nuts. They make me laugh and cry and scream. At the end of the day, I simply want to raise God-fearing, healthy children who can function well in life. I want them to make good decisions and respect others and I want them to impact their community for the better. Encompassed in this role are several others: motivational speaker, chauffeur, psychologist, maid, chef, event planner, doctor, lawyer, and keeper of things. I'm sure I left some role out but you get the idea. I can't believe that I used to work full time and still do all these things. Ahh but I am a woman, an African-American woman, and we have done this since the beginning of time. The trick is to learn to not forget me in the midst of all the other roles.
I am a daughter(and a grand-daughter). My mom and my 96 year old grandma are the greatest influences in my life. I feel both of them have impacted my life for the best. They have equipped me to be a survivor no despite the circumstances that come my way. My mom raised my brother, Gerald and I, with little money and a whole lot of family support. She instilled great values and pride in both of us. She raised us to be independent and resilient. She encouraged us to embrace our family, speak up, and remain true to our beliefs. My grandmother is quiet but very wise. She made things happen without being overbearing and she always reminded me to trust God and pray. She taught me that we can have peace even when things aren't going well.
I am a sister. I love my siblings. I wished I lived closer to my crazy brother. His life is undergoing a serious change and I am very happy to see that happen. I just wish I could witness it up close and personally. I live close to my half sister. There is a 12 year difference in our ages and we did not grow up in the same house(or state for that matter). We are not as close as I would like us to be. Perhaps with time all things will change...I might eventually live closer to Gerald and I might eventually be closer to Stephanie. My father's wish was that we would be close and remain that way.
I am a friend. I love my friends. I have been blessed with a diverse, unique, and dynamic group of women who pray for me, encourage me, and love me for who I am. Every friendship has its own flavor but I wouldn't trade any of the women in my life. They each influence me to do better and be better. I can laugh, cry, eat, and drop my basket with almost everyone of them. I trust them and I value their opinions. Some of them are the sister I didn't have growing up. Shout outs to Sonja, Rose, Dana, Nikki, Jai, Tracie, Dorna, Monica C, Carlene, Monique, Mina, and Jeanine. Each of you hold a very special place in my heart. This list is by no means representative of all the friendships that I maintain. I don't wish to offend anyone who is my friend and does not appear on this list, but with the exception of four of these names, every one of the women has been in my life for over 20 years. The other four women have come into my life in the past 5 years and have greatly impacted me for the better. I am most transparent with these women and yes, they do convict and challenge me when I am in a fit of craziness. :) I thank God for them daily because they have stood with me through the good, the bad, and especially the ugly. Some folks don't have one good friend so I know that it is a blessing to have several.
I am a niece, a cousin, an aunt, and a sister in law. I have a lot of family. I don't live near most of them and I hate that I am missing out on seeing some of them grow or experiencing a true relationship not hindered by e-mail, Facebook, or even text messages. My kids will probably not have close relationships with a lot of their family because they are scattered all over the United States. We need family reunions all around. My family is very supportive of me and my children despite our distance.
I am a blogger. If you are reading this, you know I have a purpose for developing and writing this blog. SN: this role could encompass the fact that I am a repressed English teacher and a future author. Blogging has been a good outlet for me.
I am a foodie. I love good food! It is one of the things my hubby and I have in common. My favorite foods are crab cakes, macaroni and cheese, peach cobbler, and ice cream. I like good chocolate and I love tea. I don't do much coffee. I like to cook and bake. I am a Pepsi lover and I like vodka or rum if alcohol is involved. By the way, I make an excellent daiquiri(sangria too).
I am a bibliophile. I love, love, love to read. Yep, I said it before and I will continue to say it again and again...Reading is fundamental. Books are easy to find and you can borrow them from the library. Translation, it is a free habit(cheap, cheap, cheap). You need a recommendation, I have posted a couple of book lists and I have mentioned several of my absolute favs in previous blogs.
Well that covers the basics. I could go on and on. Like most of you, I wear several hats every day. I try to do every one of them to the best of my God given ability. Embrace the life you live. Roles are just that, a part you play in the journey of life. They change daily, some are permanent and some are temporary. God doesn't give us more than we can bear so wherever you are and whatever station, that you are in, stay the course. Your role does not define the essence of who you are. Till next time, think about who you are as well as the roles that you play. There is a difference, you know. Have a lovely weekend!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on October 28, 2010
Friday, October 22, 2010
I am Who I Am
Someone asked me to define who I was. You know, it really isn't a difficult task for me. I am in my fabulous forties and I am more than comfortable in my own skin. I am very self aware and I want to be the best(pick a role) _________ that I can be. I want to also constantly evolve and to always be whole, not damaged by the circumstances of my past. I think I am consistent in my character and if you know me, what you see is what you get. Well, not really, like most people, I am complicated but my essence, my core, is consistent.
Pamela, that is me. I have so many roles but that is not what I'm defining. People, remember you are not defined by what you do. That is a lesson that should be learned really early on. It is sad to see someone struggle to define them self when they can't tell you what they do. Your job tells me nothing about who you are as a person. It is easy to put a laundry list of roles out there but that gives no indication of your character or integrity.
So here goes. Pamela is a grown woman. I love the Lord. I am a sinner saved by grace who is trying to improve spiritually each and every day. I am not preachy but I try to live a life walking in faith that God will do everything that He promises in His Word. I don't understand everything He does but I trust that it will all work out for good. I am trying to raise my children to stand on and rest in His promises.
I love to laugh and make people laugh. I love to feed people. I love to cook. Right now, I am not in a space to be the hospitable person I used to be. It bothers me to some extent. I love people. I am loyal to my friends. I have high expectations of them too. I am opinionated. I have learned to be more tactful than I was in my twenties. I dispense advice and I try to be as politically correct as possible. I am deliberate in trying to do the right thing. I love hard and I expect to be loved hard and with fierce loyalty. My moral integrity is pretty high. I don't do things to people that I wouldn't want done to me. I hate violence and malicious nastiness. SN: if I have ever hurt you, it wasn't intentional. Accept my sincere apology.
I HATE liars. Honesty is the best policy even though truth often hurts. I'd prefer you tell me nothing rather than lie to me. I am an extrovert and I have a very discerning spirit. I value my family. No matter what happens, it really is all you have. Despite dysfunction and everything, a family should be able to come together and put their differences aside. There is a reason we are not supposed to go to bed angry and that we are supposed to forgive others. I believe that we need to go back to the concept of it taking a village to raise a child. We need to stop being self contained and reach out to others.
I used to trust easily but now I have had enough life experience that I am a tad more cynical. I say what I have to say and I move on. I don't hold grudges. Life really is too short to sweat the small stuff. God chooses to forget our offenses and we should do the same. I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I'd never cheat on my husband and am not pleased by those who do.
I am a procrastinator but it works for me and I always get what need to get done by the deadline. Drives my husband crazy! I will put off unpleasant interactions especially if I know what I have to say is going to be detrimental or something that can't be recovered from. See, the truth really does hurt. I don't use people and I have a really hard time asking for help. I am a survivor, not of any disease r illness but by nature. I bounce back. I don't worry and I don't stress. I like my sleep, I only tend to get 6.5 hours or so a night so I can't let Satan keep me from the refreshing rest God has set aside for me. You know God does His best ministry in the quiet of night.
My love language is acts of service. Yes, it really does bless my heart if you do something for me. I love cards and I get ticked off if I receive one that does not match the relationship that we have. I am proud of my heritage but I am not an authority on all things African American. I am extremely literate and have an excellent grasp of the King's English though I will use slang and even Ebonics from time to time. I am down to earth with a flair for some things trendy and all things nice. If you are going to do something do it right. Don't half step on your commitments and don't be cheap with your friends. Don't be selfish with your time, talent or gifts. Change your words, you can change your destiny. If you can't change your words, change your thoughts. Most of all, prayer changes everything. We should all have scars on our knees, not our tongues. I am a positive individual who believes all things get better and the glass is always half full. So that's it. I think I covered the gamut. In the famous words of Popeye, "I AM WHO I AM!" Love me or leave me. Don't take me for granted!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on October 22, 2010
Pamela, that is me. I have so many roles but that is not what I'm defining. People, remember you are not defined by what you do. That is a lesson that should be learned really early on. It is sad to see someone struggle to define them self when they can't tell you what they do. Your job tells me nothing about who you are as a person. It is easy to put a laundry list of roles out there but that gives no indication of your character or integrity.
So here goes. Pamela is a grown woman. I love the Lord. I am a sinner saved by grace who is trying to improve spiritually each and every day. I am not preachy but I try to live a life walking in faith that God will do everything that He promises in His Word. I don't understand everything He does but I trust that it will all work out for good. I am trying to raise my children to stand on and rest in His promises.
I love to laugh and make people laugh. I love to feed people. I love to cook. Right now, I am not in a space to be the hospitable person I used to be. It bothers me to some extent. I love people. I am loyal to my friends. I have high expectations of them too. I am opinionated. I have learned to be more tactful than I was in my twenties. I dispense advice and I try to be as politically correct as possible. I am deliberate in trying to do the right thing. I love hard and I expect to be loved hard and with fierce loyalty. My moral integrity is pretty high. I don't do things to people that I wouldn't want done to me. I hate violence and malicious nastiness. SN: if I have ever hurt you, it wasn't intentional. Accept my sincere apology.
I HATE liars. Honesty is the best policy even though truth often hurts. I'd prefer you tell me nothing rather than lie to me. I am an extrovert and I have a very discerning spirit. I value my family. No matter what happens, it really is all you have. Despite dysfunction and everything, a family should be able to come together and put their differences aside. There is a reason we are not supposed to go to bed angry and that we are supposed to forgive others. I believe that we need to go back to the concept of it taking a village to raise a child. We need to stop being self contained and reach out to others.
I used to trust easily but now I have had enough life experience that I am a tad more cynical. I say what I have to say and I move on. I don't hold grudges. Life really is too short to sweat the small stuff. God chooses to forget our offenses and we should do the same. I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I'd never cheat on my husband and am not pleased by those who do.
I am a procrastinator but it works for me and I always get what need to get done by the deadline. Drives my husband crazy! I will put off unpleasant interactions especially if I know what I have to say is going to be detrimental or something that can't be recovered from. See, the truth really does hurt. I don't use people and I have a really hard time asking for help. I am a survivor, not of any disease r illness but by nature. I bounce back. I don't worry and I don't stress. I like my sleep, I only tend to get 6.5 hours or so a night so I can't let Satan keep me from the refreshing rest God has set aside for me. You know God does His best ministry in the quiet of night.
My love language is acts of service. Yes, it really does bless my heart if you do something for me. I love cards and I get ticked off if I receive one that does not match the relationship that we have. I am proud of my heritage but I am not an authority on all things African American. I am extremely literate and have an excellent grasp of the King's English though I will use slang and even Ebonics from time to time. I am down to earth with a flair for some things trendy and all things nice. If you are going to do something do it right. Don't half step on your commitments and don't be cheap with your friends. Don't be selfish with your time, talent or gifts. Change your words, you can change your destiny. If you can't change your words, change your thoughts. Most of all, prayer changes everything. We should all have scars on our knees, not our tongues. I am a positive individual who believes all things get better and the glass is always half full. So that's it. I think I covered the gamut. In the famous words of Popeye, "I AM WHO I AM!" Love me or leave me. Don't take me for granted!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on October 22, 2010
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Bullies...Whup Dat A--!!!
Dorna has a lot on her mind. The latest of which is bullying. The topic is in the news lately because of several suicides that have occurred as a result of such intolerable behavior. Sometimes parents have to take less than favorable stands on behalf of their children. Bullying is a coward's tactic. Enough of my opinion, this is Dorna's blog. Feel free to comment on Dorna's opinion.
Most of us heard the story of James Jones, the Florida father who stormed his 13 year-old cerebral palsy daughter’s bus to confront students who had been bullying her. Mr. Jones was arrested for his profanity laced outburst, for which he was released on $2000 bail and subsequently apologized. Mr. Jones’ behavior has been questioned and commented on with a resounding majority feeling he did the wrong thing for the right reason. Based on the comments I’ve read regarding the incident on CNN, !Yahoo News, and USA Today, people are very sympathetic to Mr. Jones’ reaction. Mr. Jones reacted as a father who has learned his daughter had been bullied for sometime; causing her to skip school to avoid her tormentors because she couldn’t deal with the problem. To make matters worse, the onset of the bullying began because she was defending someone else from bullying! I bet you Mr. Jones’ internal thought was “Ah hell naw!” I hazard to guess most parents would have a similar reaction.
My daughter is 17 years old in her senior year in Peachtree City, GA. Recently, she became embroiled in “girl drama” resulting in the breakdown of friendship between her and some of the “young ladies” (I use this term loosely). Lorin, realized the friendships were not true friendships and was okay with the loss. However, the “young ladies” began loud talking and taunting her on the bus and at school encouraging others to join in. It came to a head one afternoon, when they were to get off the bus and Lorin realized they were all walking toward our house to continue taunting and/or fight her. Lorin informed the bus driver that she was not getting off the bus and would get off at a different stop with another girlfriend and have me pick her up. The bus driver told her she had to get off there and could not get off at the other stop because she didn’t have a note. Lorin called me on her cell; the bus driver REFUSED to speak with me and continued to insist Lorin get off. Lorin refused and the bus driver eventually ended up turning the bus around and taking her (and everyone still on the bus) back to the school.
To say I was livid is an understatement!! I could not BELIEVE my child was being informed to head into harm’s way when she is asking for help from a supposedly responsible ADULT!! I have to say, God looked out for all involved that day, especially me!! He know if I had been at home (I had just started a new job that day), Mr. Jones’ behavior would have seemed mild in comparison to what would have occurred if I had showed up at Lorin’s bus stop!! As the kids say, it would have been on and popping!! As it is, I still want to cuss and smack the heck out of the girls, other students on the bus, and the bus driver!!
When my daughter arrived back at the school, she was able to see the principal and informed of her of what had occurred. The principal ordered Peer Mediation for the next day, but the “bullying” is still occurring. Even though I’ve met with one of the girl’s mother, the guidance counselor and spoken with two other administrators, things are still not right. Oh, and the bus driver, no action against her and I’m still waiting for a call back from the supervisor!! So, I have told my child ignore the heffas…I mean “young ladies”, however if they put their hands on her she is to “whup dat ass!!” She may not win, but let them know she’s not having it!! Now, I agree that violence doesn’t solve everything, but I think that’s the only language bullies understand!! Speaking in calm, rational tones will only incur more bullying. We know the major reasons bullies act as they do is because they are insecure about their own intelligence and place in the world. They are Satan’s minions in my estimation…they seek, kill, and destroy…another person’s self worth!!
I was not a bully growing up and was not a bullied. Bullying is as old as Cain and Abel, but I think it has moved to a more active level with the advent of some technology and the breakdown of civility in today’s society. I believe because we are no longer allowed to assist with “raising” each other’s children, the ability for bullies and children in general to get away with bad behavior has become more prevalent. Parents are not teaching good citizenship at home. Not to mention, TV and the Internet are not putting positive messages out on respectful behavior. The reality shows alone teach nothing but ignorance and disrespectfulness; to themselves and others.
As a parent, I have always taught Lorin to treat others with respect and courtesy; to have compassion for others. One of the things I have discovered as of late is that she doesn’t understand even if she isn’t the perpetrator of wrong to someone; laughing and/or saying nothing makes her just as complicit. It helps perpetuate bullying. Granted it may be funny to you, but it ceases to be funny when someone is hurt by the words and/or actions!! I have been trying to get her to see that she would not appreciate some of the things said if they were said to her!! She has to set an example by not reacting negatively and sometimes having to speak up for someone even when it’s not popular.
I totally empathize with Mr. Jones and have no issue with how he handled the situation. . I personally, feel Mr. Jones should be given an award and the tape of him “speaking” to the bullies be played to children all over the world!! The bus driver KNEW his daughter was being harassed. It’s her job to be aware of what’s going on and if she says she didn’t know, I have to say she’s lying. The school probably knew also and failed to take any action, probably because their hands are so tied with all of the legal crap they have to deal with to keep from being sued because they don’t want to infringe on upon some bad ass student’s right 30 years ago (maybe even 20) a parent having to involve themselves would have called for beatings all around. I don’t know about others, but if my mama came to the bus stop (or the school grounds), all involved would answer to her and THEN answer to their own parents. NOBODY would be sitting down for awhile!! Kudos to Mr. Jones in making sure his daughter’s tormentors were addressed!!
So how do we stop bullying? I go back to my battle cry “Elders take our village back”!! Don’t let the “rights” of children “bully” us (adults) into accepting bad and/or disrespectful behavior!! Be an example of good citizenship!! And most of all, PRAY… “correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction.” 2Timothy 4:2.
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on October 19, 2010
Most of us heard the story of James Jones, the Florida father who stormed his 13 year-old cerebral palsy daughter’s bus to confront students who had been bullying her. Mr. Jones was arrested for his profanity laced outburst, for which he was released on $2000 bail and subsequently apologized. Mr. Jones’ behavior has been questioned and commented on with a resounding majority feeling he did the wrong thing for the right reason. Based on the comments I’ve read regarding the incident on CNN, !Yahoo News, and USA Today, people are very sympathetic to Mr. Jones’ reaction. Mr. Jones reacted as a father who has learned his daughter had been bullied for sometime; causing her to skip school to avoid her tormentors because she couldn’t deal with the problem. To make matters worse, the onset of the bullying began because she was defending someone else from bullying! I bet you Mr. Jones’ internal thought was “Ah hell naw!” I hazard to guess most parents would have a similar reaction.
My daughter is 17 years old in her senior year in Peachtree City, GA. Recently, she became embroiled in “girl drama” resulting in the breakdown of friendship between her and some of the “young ladies” (I use this term loosely). Lorin, realized the friendships were not true friendships and was okay with the loss. However, the “young ladies” began loud talking and taunting her on the bus and at school encouraging others to join in. It came to a head one afternoon, when they were to get off the bus and Lorin realized they were all walking toward our house to continue taunting and/or fight her. Lorin informed the bus driver that she was not getting off the bus and would get off at a different stop with another girlfriend and have me pick her up. The bus driver told her she had to get off there and could not get off at the other stop because she didn’t have a note. Lorin called me on her cell; the bus driver REFUSED to speak with me and continued to insist Lorin get off. Lorin refused and the bus driver eventually ended up turning the bus around and taking her (and everyone still on the bus) back to the school.
To say I was livid is an understatement!! I could not BELIEVE my child was being informed to head into harm’s way when she is asking for help from a supposedly responsible ADULT!! I have to say, God looked out for all involved that day, especially me!! He know if I had been at home (I had just started a new job that day), Mr. Jones’ behavior would have seemed mild in comparison to what would have occurred if I had showed up at Lorin’s bus stop!! As the kids say, it would have been on and popping!! As it is, I still want to cuss and smack the heck out of the girls, other students on the bus, and the bus driver!!
When my daughter arrived back at the school, she was able to see the principal and informed of her of what had occurred. The principal ordered Peer Mediation for the next day, but the “bullying” is still occurring. Even though I’ve met with one of the girl’s mother, the guidance counselor and spoken with two other administrators, things are still not right. Oh, and the bus driver, no action against her and I’m still waiting for a call back from the supervisor!! So, I have told my child ignore the heffas…I mean “young ladies”, however if they put their hands on her she is to “whup dat ass!!” She may not win, but let them know she’s not having it!! Now, I agree that violence doesn’t solve everything, but I think that’s the only language bullies understand!! Speaking in calm, rational tones will only incur more bullying. We know the major reasons bullies act as they do is because they are insecure about their own intelligence and place in the world. They are Satan’s minions in my estimation…they seek, kill, and destroy…another person’s self worth!!
I was not a bully growing up and was not a bullied. Bullying is as old as Cain and Abel, but I think it has moved to a more active level with the advent of some technology and the breakdown of civility in today’s society. I believe because we are no longer allowed to assist with “raising” each other’s children, the ability for bullies and children in general to get away with bad behavior has become more prevalent. Parents are not teaching good citizenship at home. Not to mention, TV and the Internet are not putting positive messages out on respectful behavior. The reality shows alone teach nothing but ignorance and disrespectfulness; to themselves and others.
As a parent, I have always taught Lorin to treat others with respect and courtesy; to have compassion for others. One of the things I have discovered as of late is that she doesn’t understand even if she isn’t the perpetrator of wrong to someone; laughing and/or saying nothing makes her just as complicit. It helps perpetuate bullying. Granted it may be funny to you, but it ceases to be funny when someone is hurt by the words and/or actions!! I have been trying to get her to see that she would not appreciate some of the things said if they were said to her!! She has to set an example by not reacting negatively and sometimes having to speak up for someone even when it’s not popular.
I totally empathize with Mr. Jones and have no issue with how he handled the situation. . I personally, feel Mr. Jones should be given an award and the tape of him “speaking” to the bullies be played to children all over the world!! The bus driver KNEW his daughter was being harassed. It’s her job to be aware of what’s going on and if she says she didn’t know, I have to say she’s lying. The school probably knew also and failed to take any action, probably because their hands are so tied with all of the legal crap they have to deal with to keep from being sued because they don’t want to infringe on upon some bad ass student’s right 30 years ago (maybe even 20) a parent having to involve themselves would have called for beatings all around. I don’t know about others, but if my mama came to the bus stop (or the school grounds), all involved would answer to her and THEN answer to their own parents. NOBODY would be sitting down for awhile!! Kudos to Mr. Jones in making sure his daughter’s tormentors were addressed!!
So how do we stop bullying? I go back to my battle cry “Elders take our village back”!! Don’t let the “rights” of children “bully” us (adults) into accepting bad and/or disrespectful behavior!! Be an example of good citizenship!! And most of all, PRAY… “correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction.” 2Timothy 4:2.
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on October 19, 2010
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Random
I haven't done a random post about me lately so I thought I'd post one for your reading pleasure.
1. Welcome back to the blogoshpere, Toot! That's my cuzzo who has a blog but has beenignoring neglecting it lately. She has not been neglecting her YouTube videos. You can check her out at http://www.handbagshairandheels.blogspot.com/ or view her videos under AKAKristin. You will defenitely be entertained!
2. My son has an African American teacher. He's in the 4th grade. This is relevant because I think it is important to have diversity, especially in schools. One, it validates him as a person. Two it affirms in him that he can be a teacher. SN: I am wishing for a male teacher because he hasn't seen one of them except in PE and music. Third, it lessens the chance that he will be subject to concious or unconcious stereotyping and bias. I could be wrong, but I know this is important.
3. I haven't worked out since July 4th. I feel guilty. I am not motivated. That's terrible because I was dedicated and lost a whole 25 pounds. I am happy to report that I've only gained back 3 of them. I am going to get back on the grind because I need to. Pray for me to get motivated.
4. I love Utz potato chips. If you don't live in the DMV, chances are you haven't had them. Take my word for it they are the best. For my Lays fans, don't even try to tell me I'm wrong.
5. I also love Jamocha Almond Fudge ice cream from Baskin Robbins. Gold Medal Ribbon and Strawberry Banana take second and third place respectively.
6. My happy places: a good praise and worship service, Barnes and Noble, the beach, Hallmark store, a good shoe store, and the library.
7. Music really does minister to me. My Ipod has some serious playlists to uplift one's soul.
8. Honeycrisp Apples are in season! PTL! Okay, I know I am talking about an apple here but seriously folks, those bad boys are some kinda good! They are the perfect sweet, tart, and crunch. Try one and you will agree. I have to warn you that Honeycrisps are a little more expensive but they are well worth it. Oh, you can't get them all year. Now is the time and if you are lucky, you can get them till about December. 8lb Honeycrisp Crate
is $39.95 on Amazon, if you can't find them in your area.
9. If it is Autumn, then my favorite soda, other than Pepsi is also available. Cranberry Sierra Mist is awesome.
10. I am looking forward to seeing Tyler Perry's latest movie, due out Nov. 5. 2010. For Colored Girls is his adaptation of Ntozake Shange's acclaimed novel, For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow Is Enuf. Let's pray he does it justice. Sonja, don't forget, it is a date. Any of you out there feel free to join us.
As I review this post, I am cracking up. First, I am asking you all to pray for me to get back on the workout grind and then I proceed to talk about food for the majority of the remainder of the post. Go figure! Anyhoo, I am trying to get my mojo back. My daughter has been trying my patience and I have lots going on. I thank God that I am sane and can handle life's challenges. Teen girls are a trip and a half. I do have several blogs in my head and hopefully they will make it to post really soon! Till then, please bless someone and don't take the little things for granted! Peace!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on October 17, 2010
1. Welcome back to the blogoshpere, Toot! That's my cuzzo who has a blog but has been
2. My son has an African American teacher. He's in the 4th grade. This is relevant because I think it is important to have diversity, especially in schools. One, it validates him as a person. Two it affirms in him that he can be a teacher. SN: I am wishing for a male teacher because he hasn't seen one of them except in PE and music. Third, it lessens the chance that he will be subject to concious or unconcious stereotyping and bias. I could be wrong, but I know this is important.
3. I haven't worked out since July 4th. I feel guilty. I am not motivated. That's terrible because I was dedicated and lost a whole 25 pounds. I am happy to report that I've only gained back 3 of them. I am going to get back on the grind because I need to. Pray for me to get motivated.
4. I love Utz potato chips. If you don't live in the DMV, chances are you haven't had them. Take my word for it they are the best. For my Lays fans, don't even try to tell me I'm wrong.
5. I also love Jamocha Almond Fudge ice cream from Baskin Robbins. Gold Medal Ribbon and Strawberry Banana take second and third place respectively.
6. My happy places: a good praise and worship service, Barnes and Noble, the beach, Hallmark store, a good shoe store, and the library.
7. Music really does minister to me. My Ipod has some serious playlists to uplift one's soul.
8. Honeycrisp Apples are in season! PTL! Okay, I know I am talking about an apple here but seriously folks, those bad boys are some kinda good! They are the perfect sweet, tart, and crunch. Try one and you will agree. I have to warn you that Honeycrisps are a little more expensive but they are well worth it. Oh, you can't get them all year. Now is the time and if you are lucky, you can get them till about December. 8lb Honeycrisp Crate
is $39.95 on Amazon, if you can't find them in your area. 9. If it is Autumn, then my favorite soda, other than Pepsi is also available. Cranberry Sierra Mist is awesome.
10. I am looking forward to seeing Tyler Perry's latest movie, due out Nov. 5. 2010. For Colored Girls is his adaptation of Ntozake Shange's acclaimed novel, For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow Is Enuf. Let's pray he does it justice. Sonja, don't forget, it is a date. Any of you out there feel free to join us.
As I review this post, I am cracking up. First, I am asking you all to pray for me to get back on the workout grind and then I proceed to talk about food for the majority of the remainder of the post. Go figure! Anyhoo, I am trying to get my mojo back. My daughter has been trying my patience and I have lots going on. I thank God that I am sane and can handle life's challenges. Teen girls are a trip and a half. I do have several blogs in my head and hopefully they will make it to post really soon! Till then, please bless someone and don't take the little things for granted! Peace!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on October 17, 2010
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Out of the Doghouse
Cinnamon and Spike were our pets up until this morning. I have written about both of them in previous posts. They were both very loving loyal pets. My children loved them immensely. Their love however, didn't translate into them taking care of the dogs in a responsible way.
I gave my children ample warning and several opportunities to prove that they were capable of loving and caring for the pooches. Let me put out this disclaimer....I never neglected the dogs at all. I was always clear that with the addition of a new pet, I was not going to bear the brunt of the care for a dog that I really didn't want. We have had Cinnamon since 2005 and she is a typical beagle, lazy and rather easy-going. She fit like a glove in our family. Last year, Spike became a member of our illustrious family, much to my dismay. I did not want another pet because I knew my family wouldn't be able to handle a high maintenance pet. Hubby vetoed my well thought-out, highly logical argument against the new addition. Let's just say, I always know best. Spike required more interaction than Cinnamon and the novelty of that neediness wore off really quickly. Spike was an American bulldog. As such, he needed to be walked daily and played with frequently. Yeah, that didn't happen! It resulted in Spike amusing himself by way of chewing any and everything in his wake. Spike was like a curious child who destroyed items with a benign innocent nature.
As I stated before, both dogs were loving and loyal. Cinnamon loved any and everyone and could easily be satisfied with a good belly rub. She was pretty smart and quite sufficient. Don't play around and try to walk her too long in the heat. Cinnamon would sit down and look at you like you were the crazy one. Spike was not quite as open to strangers. Spike was afraid of most people but warmed up pretty quickly to children. He would follow me all over the house, often getting in my way. I referred to Spike as a tough dumb jock of a dog. Sweet as pie but not a clue in the world.
Alas, we took them to a shelter. Yes, I felt bad! Yes, I was even sad. No, I would not miss the dilemma of what to do when we travel away for days at a time. Nor would I miss the high vet, food, and kennel bills. I won't miss the dog hair being all over my furniture. Pet ownership is NO joke!!!! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It really is serious business. My children had meltdowns. They implored me to go back and get their dogs from the shelter. A sadness prevailed in our house. Yet, I know I did the right thing.
My daughter thought that because I threatened and procrastinated, we would never get rid of our pooches. She failed to realize this was an opportunity to further prove that they could handle the responsibility of owning a pet. Pets are not objects who exist for your own pleasure. They need more than love to survive. My brother made an excellent point, if we as parents failed to meet our childrens' needs, they can call child protective services to intervene on their behalf. Our dogs don't have that ability so I had to make a call on their behalf.
So Cinnamon and Spike this post is dedicated to you. We had had some great times, good laughs, and lots of memories. I wish you the best in your new family situation. I hope that your new owners are kind and considerate and never forget to feed you or give you water. I hope they walk you and expose you to new things. The Thorpe family loves you always. Parting is such sweet sorrow. Parents have to make tough decisions and stick to them. That said, we close his chapter of our lives. Till next time, pray for my family. Drama, drama, drama!! There is always fallout from every decision. Ciao!
Copyright by Pamela Cole Thorpe on October 9, 2010.
I gave my children ample warning and several opportunities to prove that they were capable of loving and caring for the pooches. Let me put out this disclaimer....I never neglected the dogs at all. I was always clear that with the addition of a new pet, I was not going to bear the brunt of the care for a dog that I really didn't want. We have had Cinnamon since 2005 and she is a typical beagle, lazy and rather easy-going. She fit like a glove in our family. Last year, Spike became a member of our illustrious family, much to my dismay. I did not want another pet because I knew my family wouldn't be able to handle a high maintenance pet. Hubby vetoed my well thought-out, highly logical argument against the new addition. Let's just say, I always know best. Spike required more interaction than Cinnamon and the novelty of that neediness wore off really quickly. Spike was an American bulldog. As such, he needed to be walked daily and played with frequently. Yeah, that didn't happen! It resulted in Spike amusing himself by way of chewing any and everything in his wake. Spike was like a curious child who destroyed items with a benign innocent nature.
As I stated before, both dogs were loving and loyal. Cinnamon loved any and everyone and could easily be satisfied with a good belly rub. She was pretty smart and quite sufficient. Don't play around and try to walk her too long in the heat. Cinnamon would sit down and look at you like you were the crazy one. Spike was not quite as open to strangers. Spike was afraid of most people but warmed up pretty quickly to children. He would follow me all over the house, often getting in my way. I referred to Spike as a tough dumb jock of a dog. Sweet as pie but not a clue in the world.
Alas, we took them to a shelter. Yes, I felt bad! Yes, I was even sad. No, I would not miss the dilemma of what to do when we travel away for days at a time. Nor would I miss the high vet, food, and kennel bills. I won't miss the dog hair being all over my furniture. Pet ownership is NO joke!!!! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It really is serious business. My children had meltdowns. They implored me to go back and get their dogs from the shelter. A sadness prevailed in our house. Yet, I know I did the right thing.
My daughter thought that because I threatened and procrastinated, we would never get rid of our pooches. She failed to realize this was an opportunity to further prove that they could handle the responsibility of owning a pet. Pets are not objects who exist for your own pleasure. They need more than love to survive. My brother made an excellent point, if we as parents failed to meet our childrens' needs, they can call child protective services to intervene on their behalf. Our dogs don't have that ability so I had to make a call on their behalf.
So Cinnamon and Spike this post is dedicated to you. We had had some great times, good laughs, and lots of memories. I wish you the best in your new family situation. I hope that your new owners are kind and considerate and never forget to feed you or give you water. I hope they walk you and expose you to new things. The Thorpe family loves you always. Parting is such sweet sorrow. Parents have to make tough decisions and stick to them. That said, we close his chapter of our lives. Till next time, pray for my family. Drama, drama, drama!! There is always fallout from every decision. Ciao!
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Rules
Hey! I am not on top of my blogging game this week(got plenty on my mind, just haven't typed it all out) but my girl Dorna was. She had some things on her mind. So I present you with a guest blog. Dorna, like myself, welcomes feedback. Let us know what you think!
Rules
I have had several conversations with my boyfriend about what he feels is my disdain of following rules. According to him, I don’t follow rules or totally disregard them if I don’t like them. Unfortunately, he is not the only one of that opinion about me. Recently, I asked my boss what the protocol was for a certain method of communication and his response to me was, “Oh, now you want to follow the rules!!” So, I’ve been giving some reflection as to why the perception prevails (because it’s most certainly not true!!) Here are some of the thoughts that have come to me: 1). Most rules are short sighted; rule makers don’t always consider future possibilities. 2) The rule makers aren’t always the correct (or brightest for that matter) people to make the rules. 3) A lot of the time rules are too absolute; other than the 10 commandments, I’m not sure why I would follow everything to the letter. 4) A lot of rules are just plain stupid; but that goes back to my theory there are way more stupid people in the world than smart; therefore rule makers are stupid!!
One definition of Merriam-Webster’s definition of a rule is “a prescribed guide for conduct or action”. Another one is “an accepted procedure, custom, or habit” and finally, “the exercise of authority or control”. Now I realize that rules are part of everything we do in life otherwise we would have anarchy and chaos. So, I understand the need for rules but they should really be more guidelines allowing some flexibility. The more I pondered on this “rules thing”, I also realized most people don’t think rules should not be challenged!! I think that is probably my issue more than anything. For those who know me, things have to make some sort of sense to ME and if it doesn’t questions will be raised. The answer, “that’s the rule” is just not sufficient for me!! And that’s usually because the explanation has no basis in sound thinking, not my concern or it’s just plain stupid!! I often find myself asking someone when I’m challenging a rule/guideline/process “Does that make sense to you?” (What I’m actually thinking, “Seriously who came up with this crap?”) or “I’m the first person to have issue with this? These questions generally result in the “huh” look or “Ma’am you’re the only one who’s ever had an issue with this” or “Look lady (witch), you’ll have to take this up with someone else” (translate: get out of my face!) or “No, but that’s the rule”. These answers frustrate me to no end!
So, what I’ve determined is the majority of people will do as told without question. Going back to Merriam-Webster’s definition, rules are “accepted custom” (by the majority) to”exercise control” (by the rule makers). But here’s the thing, I use my “prescribed for conduct or action” based on my experience or what makes sense to ME!! I don’t necessarily know the rules because I don’t think like the rule makers and I’m never the rule maker (except in my home). I go blithely through life being Dorna and then BAM…I run into “the rules”. Rules not made by me or had my input. Rules made for those who don’t always want to think. Rules that don’t necessarily make sense to anyone other than the rule maker!
As a result of all this reflection, I submit I’m not a rule breaker but a rule challenger !! I invite everyone to question the rules also. Don’t always go with the flow, because crap flows downhill!!
As Pam says…be a blessing!!
Copyright October7, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Rules
I have had several conversations with my boyfriend about what he feels is my disdain of following rules. According to him, I don’t follow rules or totally disregard them if I don’t like them. Unfortunately, he is not the only one of that opinion about me. Recently, I asked my boss what the protocol was for a certain method of communication and his response to me was, “Oh, now you want to follow the rules!!” So, I’ve been giving some reflection as to why the perception prevails (because it’s most certainly not true!!) Here are some of the thoughts that have come to me: 1). Most rules are short sighted; rule makers don’t always consider future possibilities. 2) The rule makers aren’t always the correct (or brightest for that matter) people to make the rules. 3) A lot of the time rules are too absolute; other than the 10 commandments, I’m not sure why I would follow everything to the letter. 4) A lot of rules are just plain stupid; but that goes back to my theory there are way more stupid people in the world than smart; therefore rule makers are stupid!!
One definition of Merriam-Webster’s definition of a rule is “a prescribed guide for conduct or action”. Another one is “an accepted procedure, custom, or habit” and finally, “the exercise of authority or control”. Now I realize that rules are part of everything we do in life otherwise we would have anarchy and chaos. So, I understand the need for rules but they should really be more guidelines allowing some flexibility. The more I pondered on this “rules thing”, I also realized most people don’t think rules should not be challenged!! I think that is probably my issue more than anything. For those who know me, things have to make some sort of sense to ME and if it doesn’t questions will be raised. The answer, “that’s the rule” is just not sufficient for me!! And that’s usually because the explanation has no basis in sound thinking, not my concern or it’s just plain stupid!! I often find myself asking someone when I’m challenging a rule/guideline/process “Does that make sense to you?” (What I’m actually thinking, “Seriously who came up with this crap?”) or “I’m the first person to have issue with this? These questions generally result in the “huh” look or “Ma’am you’re the only one who’s ever had an issue with this” or “Look lady (witch), you’ll have to take this up with someone else” (translate: get out of my face!) or “No, but that’s the rule”. These answers frustrate me to no end!
So, what I’ve determined is the majority of people will do as told without question. Going back to Merriam-Webster’s definition, rules are “accepted custom” (by the majority) to”exercise control” (by the rule makers). But here’s the thing, I use my “prescribed for conduct or action” based on my experience or what makes sense to ME!! I don’t necessarily know the rules because I don’t think like the rule makers and I’m never the rule maker (except in my home). I go blithely through life being Dorna and then BAM…I run into “the rules”. Rules not made by me or had my input. Rules made for those who don’t always want to think. Rules that don’t necessarily make sense to anyone other than the rule maker!
As a result of all this reflection, I submit I’m not a rule breaker but a rule challenger !! I invite everyone to question the rules also. Don’t always go with the flow, because crap flows downhill!!
As Pam says…be a blessing!!
Copyright October7, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Thursday, September 30, 2010
What About the Church??
Yes there is drama in the church! Lots of it! By now, we are all well aware of the scandal that has rocked Atlanta's mega church New Birth and it's Bishop Eddie Long. Initially I was going to make the blog about his inexcusable behavior. I think my space would be better utilized by me stating how things like this blight the church as a whole. It is not an African American church crisis, it is a church crisis. It is just one of many issues plaguing the church.
As parishioners, we have to be careful not to esteem our church leaders to a place reserved solely for God. Too many times, we place too much emphasis on the church leader as opposed to the church ministry. The church is not the pastor, it is the body. When the pastor stumbles, which he will, because he too, is simply a sinner saved by grace, the work of the church must continue. In Long's case, I believe he needs to sit down until his issues are worked out. He needs to be ministered to and encouraged. Souls still need to be saved, baby Christians still need to be nourished in order for growth, and other successful ministries still need to thrive.
The problem with church leaders falling from a place of grace, is it is really damaging for the testimony of church and the church body as a whole. One, we look like hypocrites. Two, there are folks struggling with their identity in Christ(as well as other areas) and some of the messages that the Bible teaches. Third, we really don't want to send baby Christians in the wrong direction.
Some of our greatest damaging behavior occurs in the church. The church is not a social club for saved folks, it is supposed to be a hospital for sinners. According to the Word, "All have sinned and fallen short"(Romans 3:23) So we are all sinners in need of God's mercy and grace. So, none of us saved for a really long time folks, have the right to judge those who took a little longer in their journey to get to know Christ. Perfect example, you are in your finest threads, dressed to the nines, church hat cocked to the side and in walks a scruffy looking brother or sister in jeans and t-shirt. How do you react? Do you welcome with open arms? or do you pull your purse closer and act as if there is no room on your row? Heck, I've been dressed real cute and had people who felt entitled to "their seat" not move. What happened to the love? Love is the true basis for the church's existence.
We know lots of folks attend to church because it is simply the right thing to do. They zip in and zip out with no regard for real ministry. Ministry means you are dealing with people and showing them love care and concern to meet a need. Some people only open their Bibles in church. There is a fundamental problem with that. One, how can you test what you are being taught if you don't know what Christ said for yourself. Two, what if your church leader has personal bias on a particular subject. Or maybe their interpretation is off. God told us to search the scriptures for ourselves. (1 John 4:1 or 2 Timothy 2:15)
Oh, I could go on and on about what does and doesn't go on in the church. The church has been relegated to a place of minimal importance in our society. Pastors are exposed for lewd and evil deeds daily. The church isn't dealing with real issues and in many cases has become tolerant and blase about serious moral issues. More and more, the church resembles the world at large. What a sad commentary!
I leave you with this thought. Ezekiel 18:24(CEV) states, "But when good people start sinning and doing disgusting things, will they live? No! All their good deeds will be forgotten, and they will be put to death because of their sins." This passage was quoted by my brother last week in response to the Eddie Long scandal. I loved it! While it certainly applies to any leader, it also applies to us as Christians. We can be doing a ton of good for God but what people remember is the bad stuff. I know the Bible tells us that "only what you do for Christ will last." Another instance of church view versus world view. People remember the bad stuff, Christ only remembers what we do for Him.
Wouldn't it be something if Christ still smote people? Nothing like an Ananias and Sapphira experience(read it for yourself in Acts 5) to straighten up the on-lookers or other members of the church. If you are a Christian do your friends know it? Can they tell by your lifestyle? Take some time to get your testimony/legacy in order. The church suffers when our walk is suspect. Lord knows we don't need that in light of priests molesting boys, gay marriage and no prayer in schools. Enough really is enough! What do you think? Is the church effective? Would Christ be pleased? Please share! Till next time, be a blessing!
Copyright September 30, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
As parishioners, we have to be careful not to esteem our church leaders to a place reserved solely for God. Too many times, we place too much emphasis on the church leader as opposed to the church ministry. The church is not the pastor, it is the body. When the pastor stumbles, which he will, because he too, is simply a sinner saved by grace, the work of the church must continue. In Long's case, I believe he needs to sit down until his issues are worked out. He needs to be ministered to and encouraged. Souls still need to be saved, baby Christians still need to be nourished in order for growth, and other successful ministries still need to thrive.
The problem with church leaders falling from a place of grace, is it is really damaging for the testimony of church and the church body as a whole. One, we look like hypocrites. Two, there are folks struggling with their identity in Christ(as well as other areas) and some of the messages that the Bible teaches. Third, we really don't want to send baby Christians in the wrong direction.
Some of our greatest damaging behavior occurs in the church. The church is not a social club for saved folks, it is supposed to be a hospital for sinners. According to the Word, "All have sinned and fallen short"(Romans 3:23) So we are all sinners in need of God's mercy and grace. So, none of us saved for a really long time folks, have the right to judge those who took a little longer in their journey to get to know Christ. Perfect example, you are in your finest threads, dressed to the nines, church hat cocked to the side and in walks a scruffy looking brother or sister in jeans and t-shirt. How do you react? Do you welcome with open arms? or do you pull your purse closer and act as if there is no room on your row? Heck, I've been dressed real cute and had people who felt entitled to "their seat" not move. What happened to the love? Love is the true basis for the church's existence.
We know lots of folks attend to church because it is simply the right thing to do. They zip in and zip out with no regard for real ministry. Ministry means you are dealing with people and showing them love care and concern to meet a need. Some people only open their Bibles in church. There is a fundamental problem with that. One, how can you test what you are being taught if you don't know what Christ said for yourself. Two, what if your church leader has personal bias on a particular subject. Or maybe their interpretation is off. God told us to search the scriptures for ourselves. (1 John 4:1 or 2 Timothy 2:15)
Oh, I could go on and on about what does and doesn't go on in the church. The church has been relegated to a place of minimal importance in our society. Pastors are exposed for lewd and evil deeds daily. The church isn't dealing with real issues and in many cases has become tolerant and blase about serious moral issues. More and more, the church resembles the world at large. What a sad commentary!
I leave you with this thought. Ezekiel 18:24(CEV) states, "But when good people start sinning and doing disgusting things, will they live? No! All their good deeds will be forgotten, and they will be put to death because of their sins." This passage was quoted by my brother last week in response to the Eddie Long scandal. I loved it! While it certainly applies to any leader, it also applies to us as Christians. We can be doing a ton of good for God but what people remember is the bad stuff. I know the Bible tells us that "only what you do for Christ will last." Another instance of church view versus world view. People remember the bad stuff, Christ only remembers what we do for Him.
Wouldn't it be something if Christ still smote people? Nothing like an Ananias and Sapphira experience(read it for yourself in Acts 5) to straighten up the on-lookers or other members of the church. If you are a Christian do your friends know it? Can they tell by your lifestyle? Take some time to get your testimony/legacy in order. The church suffers when our walk is suspect. Lord knows we don't need that in light of priests molesting boys, gay marriage and no prayer in schools. Enough really is enough! What do you think? Is the church effective? Would Christ be pleased? Please share! Till next time, be a blessing!
Copyright September 30, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Friday, September 17, 2010
Scapegoats
So what has me putting this out here? It is the fact that sometimes I listen to a story on the news and I think something is wrong with that story. It was the thought I had when I hear Bethany Storro's claim that "an African American woman with a ponytail attacked her by throwing acid in her face." I was thinking that that is something we wouldn't do. How many of you know that the African American population in Vancouver is less than five percent? That makes the story questionable. Almost three weeks later and after a significant outpouring of concern and valuable resources have been wasted, she finally admits that the claim was a hoax. First of all, she is one sick puppy. Who inflicts that kind of pain and damage to get some darn attention? Hell, prostitution would've given her attention. If you saw her interview, you know God should come down and strike her A$$. During her made up story, she claimed that she had bought sunglasses, something she never does, and by golly, it was God because she had the glasses on thus receieved less damage from the acid. Go figure! Then there is Susan Smith and Ashley Todd who also blamed African Americans for actions they inflicted. I am not giving them any more press, just using them as example to make my point.
We need to demand that it become more difficult to blame African Americans. There has to be a strong punishment for the person beause it is not okay to assault any specific group of people. We have to also wonder why it is so easy for society to believe the worst of us and that we would commit such heinous crimes. It is easy because the idea of all being created equal has not been totally realized despite how far we've come. America is really afraid to deal with the deep effects of years and years of acceptable and tolerated racist behavior and that is a disservice to future generations. For those of you who think that Barack Obama in the White House is an accomplishment and that we have arrived....It is huge step and it was a long time coming, but it in no way eradicates the indoctrinated racial attitudes which continue to plague our nation. How do you think people like Bethany Storro should be punished?How do we overcome the racial stereotypes? I don't have the answers but you know I always have an opinion. Till next time, I would love to see your comments on this subject. Have a wonderful weekend! Autumn begins in a few days.
Copyright September 17, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Got Jesus? Don't Worry!
We are all stressed or worried about something. It can be the future, the children, our relationships, or money, not to mention any number of things. So how do you deal with your stress. Does it keep you up at night? Do you have ulcers? Is your blood pressure off the chart? Did you know that worry is something that God doesn't want us to do. To validate my assertion, read Matthew 6: 25-34. Verse 26 says, "Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?" Note the point, worry adds nothing to your life.
I am a pretty carefree individual. I do ponder the issues of my life quite a bit. I don't allow them to have me walking around sullen, nor do I lose any sleep over them. Oh I don't have any health issues either. I think that irritates my hubby because he is always stressed. It isn't that I don't care, it is just that when things are out of your control, you are wasting valuable time and energy consuming yourself with whatever the problem is. I have a lot of faith that God really knows and understands our circumstances and He will come through in the right time. Sometimes, I believe He takes His time to test our faith. He wants to make sure that we don't let our flesh take over and make us think we handled the issue on our own.
When I was planning my wedding I developed ulcers. I know whole-heartedly that it was because I was stressing about the details of the wedding. I was in serious pain and then I had to take medication. I vowed then that I would never let worry or stress consume me to that point. Life is too short to spend it on trivial things. On our worse day, we are doing better than so many other individuals. I think we take that fact for granted. We live in a material world and honestly we are sheltered from the atrocities of most of the world so we can get bamboozled into believing our problems really are important and we will end up in a catastrophic situation. Part of the reason for that is that we fail to seek Christ and ask Him to meet our daily needs. We might not take a vacation, our spouse may leave, we may have a creditor or two calling our house but we eat daily, we have more than two weeks worth of clothes, cars to drive, and health(or the ability to receive health care).
Next time any of those are your concerns, think about the homeless mother with several children. Think about the family where 10 people are living in a 2 bedroom apartment. Imagine if you only had one pair of shoes, and two outfits. We have choices and opportunity. We have to make the best of them in good times and bad. We can only do what we can do. You can't squeeze blood out of a turnip. I hope the message you are getting is this; Don't worry, be happy! Matthew 6:34 says, "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." It doesn't get any simpler than that that, especially if you have a small amount of faith! Till next time meditate n being to blessed to be stressed! Peace!
Copyright September 15, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
I am a pretty carefree individual. I do ponder the issues of my life quite a bit. I don't allow them to have me walking around sullen, nor do I lose any sleep over them. Oh I don't have any health issues either. I think that irritates my hubby because he is always stressed. It isn't that I don't care, it is just that when things are out of your control, you are wasting valuable time and energy consuming yourself with whatever the problem is. I have a lot of faith that God really knows and understands our circumstances and He will come through in the right time. Sometimes, I believe He takes His time to test our faith. He wants to make sure that we don't let our flesh take over and make us think we handled the issue on our own.
When I was planning my wedding I developed ulcers. I know whole-heartedly that it was because I was stressing about the details of the wedding. I was in serious pain and then I had to take medication. I vowed then that I would never let worry or stress consume me to that point. Life is too short to spend it on trivial things. On our worse day, we are doing better than so many other individuals. I think we take that fact for granted. We live in a material world and honestly we are sheltered from the atrocities of most of the world so we can get bamboozled into believing our problems really are important and we will end up in a catastrophic situation. Part of the reason for that is that we fail to seek Christ and ask Him to meet our daily needs. We might not take a vacation, our spouse may leave, we may have a creditor or two calling our house but we eat daily, we have more than two weeks worth of clothes, cars to drive, and health(or the ability to receive health care).
Next time any of those are your concerns, think about the homeless mother with several children. Think about the family where 10 people are living in a 2 bedroom apartment. Imagine if you only had one pair of shoes, and two outfits. We have choices and opportunity. We have to make the best of them in good times and bad. We can only do what we can do. You can't squeeze blood out of a turnip. I hope the message you are getting is this; Don't worry, be happy! Matthew 6:34 says, "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." It doesn't get any simpler than that that, especially if you have a small amount of faith! Till next time meditate n being to blessed to be stressed! Peace!
Copyright September 15, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Is Your Past Holding You Back?
A lot of conversations that I have had lately have centered on past relationships and past actions and how those things affect our life choices today. Many of us are haunted by demons of the past and we don't even recognize it. We don't recognize it because we have suppressed things to better cope with or to prevent hurting some one's feelings. What we fail to realize is that eventually suppressing things will hurt us and perhaps even those we love.
I don't have any cut and dry solutions to the problem of one releasing their past hurts and pains. I just realize that we all have some junk in our trunk that affects us daily. I am immensely aware that we need to let those things go to get to the blessing God has prepared for us. In order to get through or past these things, we may need to have some tough conversations or take a hard look at ourselves in the mirror. I think every person can use a little therapy in their life. I'm just saying....we all have some stuff. Because we are all works in progress, it is pointless to play the blame game. Our parents probably did the best they could to protect and teach us so we could become productive adults.
It is easy for me to say don't let your past hold you back but it isn't necessarily easy for everyone to do. Some of us have trust issues and don't want to discuss our business with another party. African Americans usually seem reluctant to seek help. They often keep things in and I won't even get into some of the family secrets that never really get dealt with. I know some of you won't believe me but there is always a place to go to release your baggage. God is always there to hear your cries. His Word has been given to us to deal with all of life's issues. Did you hear me? ALL OF LIFE'S ISSUES are dealt with in the HOLY BIBLE.
There are a million self-help books out there and trust me, one of them will say exactly what you want to hear. Is that really going to be helpful for you? I don't think so. Really, this blog is to encourage you to seek help from somewhere. Some of us aren't walking into our God-given destiny because we have not dealt with our past demons. We might be good but we aren't great. Good is the enemy of great! Why settle?!? Get yourself some help-paid, free, professional, or turn to God's map for our lives The Bible. You can get it in a vast multitude of translations meaning no thees and thous. LOL! Seriously though, deal with whatever is haunting you. It will free you and those around you. In Christ, there is liberty. We were meant to be free(ref. Galatians 5:1). Till next time, take the steps necessary to put the past behind and to press forward(ref. Philippians 3:14-15). Be blessed and be a blessing! Peace!
Copyright September 14, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
Friday, September 10, 2010
Revisting Why I Write
It has been a little over a year since I started this blog. So I think it is a fitting time to reiterate my reasons for doing so and also to reflect on what I have written. As I reviewed my original "Why Write" post, things haven't changed much in my opinion about why I do what I do. I still write for me and I still want to be transparent. I want to grow and I want to inspire you to grow. I want to challenge and be challenged. I want to exercise my God given gifts and talents. I also write to inspire my children to do and undertake whatever their hearts desire. Chante started a blog because she was inspired by me and her Big Sister/Cousin Toot. You never know how you will impact your child. In light of the post written yesterday, be careful to be a positive influence. Your children and someone else's are watching your every move and action!
I am a major procrastinator. It irks the hell out out my handsome husband. It works for me, not against me, in almost every situation. So of course this should have been written on August 26, 2010. That was the anniversary of my first post. Somehow, that day came and went and it never crossed my mind to review the year's worth of blogs. My blogs have run the gamut, topic wise. I have written about issues that are near and dear to me. I have highlighted current events and issues. I have reflected on legendary people. I have commented on history, parenting, and friendship. I have told you my favorite products and given you my pet peeves too. In short, I have a lot to say and I am not through yet. I have grown in my sharing and been honest. Transparency is still difficult, not because I don't want to be honest but because I don't really want to be judged. Who does?
Let this serve as reminder to each of you. I am still and always will be a WORK IN PROGRESS. I am not perfect but I still put my self and my opinions out there. My blogs are not about any of you(SN: neither are my FB statuses) per se. If we have a conversation and the subject matter weighs heavily on my heart, chances are it may become fodder for a blog post. I am never going to put anyone out there. I am going to state my opinion and it may not be politically correct. You can always chose to read any other of the million other blogs out there. Sometimes, though, we need to come out of our little comfort zones and face the truth or be challenged in a different way. Growth is difficult but alas it is necessary. You can always provide me with an alternative view. I am willing to share my blog with a guest post. I am not writing to stroke egos but I would like my posts to be pleasing to God.Now sometimes, even that simply doesn't happen. I am a sinner saved by God's grace and mercy and sometimes flesh takes over. Note that that was a disclaimer. ;)
Finally, I really want to thank my loyal readers, especially those who offer comments both public and personal. The dialogue has been great! I am always left with something to think/pray about but more importantly, I am encouraged by each of your honesty and encouragement. If you told a friend to subscribe or check me out, I am eternally grateful. Strangers will tell you things your friends won't. For those of you who have spoken positively into my life and encourage me to keep writing, I am very appreciative. I am trying to work on God's timeline for a change so my book is still not ready to be birthed. Apparently, God still needs to prepare me in some way. Ruh-oh, it might be scary. I think I can handle it, but you never know.
So welcome to a new year with Miss Read! I will continue to be blunt, honest, and transparent. I will continue to address whatever I deem necessary. I hope you find it a thrill to keep up with me as I work through my issues and maybe yours too! That is why I write-to free my mind and yours and host of other reasons already listed in this and the previous post. Till next time, be a vessel God can use! Ciao!
Copyright September 10, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
I am a major procrastinator. It irks the hell out out my handsome husband. It works for me, not against me, in almost every situation. So of course this should have been written on August 26, 2010. That was the anniversary of my first post. Somehow, that day came and went and it never crossed my mind to review the year's worth of blogs. My blogs have run the gamut, topic wise. I have written about issues that are near and dear to me. I have highlighted current events and issues. I have reflected on legendary people. I have commented on history, parenting, and friendship. I have told you my favorite products and given you my pet peeves too. In short, I have a lot to say and I am not through yet. I have grown in my sharing and been honest. Transparency is still difficult, not because I don't want to be honest but because I don't really want to be judged. Who does?
Let this serve as reminder to each of you. I am still and always will be a WORK IN PROGRESS. I am not perfect but I still put my self and my opinions out there. My blogs are not about any of you(SN: neither are my FB statuses) per se. If we have a conversation and the subject matter weighs heavily on my heart, chances are it may become fodder for a blog post. I am never going to put anyone out there. I am going to state my opinion and it may not be politically correct. You can always chose to read any other of the million other blogs out there. Sometimes, though, we need to come out of our little comfort zones and face the truth or be challenged in a different way. Growth is difficult but alas it is necessary. You can always provide me with an alternative view. I am willing to share my blog with a guest post. I am not writing to stroke egos but I would like my posts to be pleasing to God.Now sometimes, even that simply doesn't happen. I am a sinner saved by God's grace and mercy and sometimes flesh takes over. Note that that was a disclaimer. ;)
Finally, I really want to thank my loyal readers, especially those who offer comments both public and personal. The dialogue has been great! I am always left with something to think/pray about but more importantly, I am encouraged by each of your honesty and encouragement. If you told a friend to subscribe or check me out, I am eternally grateful. Strangers will tell you things your friends won't. For those of you who have spoken positively into my life and encourage me to keep writing, I am very appreciative. I am trying to work on God's timeline for a change so my book is still not ready to be birthed. Apparently, God still needs to prepare me in some way. Ruh-oh, it might be scary. I think I can handle it, but you never know.
So welcome to a new year with Miss Read! I will continue to be blunt, honest, and transparent. I will continue to address whatever I deem necessary. I hope you find it a thrill to keep up with me as I work through my issues and maybe yours too! That is why I write-to free my mind and yours and host of other reasons already listed in this and the previous post. Till next time, be a vessel God can use! Ciao!
Copyright September 10, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe
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