Diva Dialogue IX

I told you that I had a lot of things on my mind so here I go with my random thoughts for the past few weeks. There is no rhyme or reason just my thoughts on a wide range of subjects. Feel free to share your thoughts. I love to see/hear what other people think about a situation. My perception is my reality just as your perception is your reality.

First up is Home wreckers. Wow there are so many folks I could focus on. Let's start with Tiger. He and Elin have finalized their divorce. She should be a happy but well paid woman and he should be well on his way to getting his golf game back on track. Who will suffer? The babies! Of course there will be plenty of money for therapy. You can catch her one and only interview in the current issue of People magazine. Now I am leaving that topic completely alone. Alicia Keys. I love her music and philanthropic spirit but let's face it, she destroyed a home. She was well acquainted with SwizzBeatz and his family. After all they worked together for years. She's a powerful woman who could probably have any man that she wanted. She chose to deal with a man who was married with a family. Dead Wrong! According to the Tom Joyner Morning Show, women got up and left during her performance at the Essence Music Festival. Their position was that allowing her to perform went against the spirit of the festival which is to empower and uplift women. Do you agree or disagree? Fantasia. Where do I begin? I like Fantasia. She is in need of love but she is looking in all the wrong places. Fantasia needs several things. The first is a good therapist to help her love herself. She needs to swear off relationships for a while until she heals internally. Second, she needs a neutral person who is full of wisdom who can help her get on the right track in terms of money and family. Keisha Cole did it and Fantasia needs to do it. She needs to separate her family from her professional life and stop letting them leech off of her. Third, she needs to stand strong in her religious foundation. God did not allow her success with her suicide attempt because He has bigger and better plans for her life. Also, she has a daughter to live for and really this would not be the legacy you want to leave your child. I am rooting for Fantasia. I like her. She has talent, loved her in the Color Purple! We love comeback stories!


Next up is people killing their loved ones. I know it happens daily but it really drives me nuts and hurts my heart. I don't even know where to begin on this topic. I don't want anybody to love me so much that they have to kill me. Where is the love in that? In Cleveland, two professional women were killed by their husbands recently. Very sad. In one case, the husband was known to be abusive and the woman, a social worker, thought she could change the bad boy. Ladies, you can't change your man! If he's a dog when you meet him, he will still be a dog years later. Leopards don't change their spots. Then there is the woman who drowned her children in the car in South Carolina. She felt overwhelmed and not able to take care of them. Seriously? Was death really a better option for the kids or for her? I don't know much about mental illness but I know it is real. Maybe that is the problem. Maybe, we really just don't value life anymore. Not the lives of others or our own. God must be really heartbroken over that.


Was Michelle Obama wrong to take the trip to Spain? I don't think so. First and foremost, the Obamas were wealthy before they entered the White House. Second, don't we all travel where we want and spend our money in whatever way we want? Do we consider the economic state of others when we plan our vacations? No we don't. We do what is best for our own family and whatever we can afford. I don't envy Michelle Obama or her family. The scrutiny of everything would make me tell America to.....well, no I wouldn't stoop to that level but boy would I want to.


Who is watching the Real Housewives of DC? I am sick of those shows. Is the cast really reflective of DC? I would think that that cast could have definitely been more diverse. I am not watching. Of course I am not really a fan of any of them. I tuned into RHOA and I still wonder why? What is the pull for these shows? Are we really okay with television capitalizing off of women drama. Where is the positivity? I hate that we have become so obsessed with other peoples drama. What does that say about us? Do we need to watch the train wreck lives of others to feel better about our own messy lives? Just wondering?


Essence Magazine was recently under fire. The magazine that inspires and empowers African American women hired a Caucasian Fashion Director, Ellianna Placas. According to editor-in-chief Angela Bart Murray, she chose her "because of her creativity, vision, the positive reader response to her work and her enthusiasm and respect for the audience and our brand. We remain committed to celebrating the unique beauty and style of African-American women in Essence magazine and online at Essence.com." So folks what do you think? Can Placas accurately define and dictate the unique style of African American women? I guess only time will tell. I can tell you that Vogue and ELLE certainly don't celebrate our uniqueness. Let's face it, people of color definitely have a style all their own.


Do you think Wyclef Jean would make a viable candidate for Haiti? I will always see him as a pop singer. I loved the Fugees (Fugees - Greatest Hits). He is outspoken and passionate about his beloved country but is he really capable of running a country who has been consistently been hit with tragedy and natural disaster? I am not sure he;s the best candidate  but at this point, his chances have been knocked down by the courts who are questioning his residency since he is away from Haiti so often for business.


Speaking of tragedy and natural disaster, it has been five years since Hurricane Katrina. This weekend we are going to see a lot of coverage on where they are in terms of rebuilding. Spike Lee just debuted an HBO documentary on the subject. I haven't seen it but I understand that he did a better job with the documentary on the same subject a year after it happened than the current one. Honestly, I know that it will take a long time to really rebuild the area. It is not a place I'd ever want to live, visit maybe but live never. The BP oil spill definitely did not help. The people of New Orleans seem to be resilient. They are proud and strong. Hopefully, time will heal all wounds. In addition to rebuilding, there is much to do about education and economic development.

Okay so this is kinda long. This is my forum and I don't want to bore you. I am going to end here though. Happy Birthday, Diva Dorna! I hope you have a wonderful birthday celebration! I love you my Favorite sista-friend. Thanks for being there for me through whatever!

Satan is so busy folks. I hope when you think of me that you will lift me in prayer. Life keeps trying to give me lemons...I am a survivor so I am making lemonade, lemon bars, and lemon cake. Seriously though, Satan is a lair and he has come to steal kill and destroy. Let us all purpose in our hearts not to allow him to be successful. God is Our Victory and we need to stand through His power. Till next time, I wish you peace.

Copyright August 26, 2010 by Pamela Cole Thorpe